Sometimes I hate him!

[MrLang]

That was almost 5 years ago and word from friends/family is that he hasn't touched a drug since I left him. He's had the same job (2 years Max when we were married), he has a fiancée who can't even fathom why someone would leave such a wonderful man. He even got custody of a daughter he fathered via one-night-stand early in our relationship.

Do I wish he would have changed his life before he wrecked a train in mine? Of course. But things don't always work out the way we want. In the end, I had to go. In doing so, I helped him make the choice to get his act together. Now someone else can have a healthy relationship with him and he has a clear understanding of the consequences of his choices. I believe he will make his next wife very happy.

My pivotal moment was at Christmas where my sister drove off in the middle of a snow storm and told me and my mom that she wasn't talking to either of us until I was clean.

A month later I was clean and have not even considered relapse. I'm never risking losing my family again.