Being married vs. being single

[Andybill]

im 31 and married. love my wife and 2 kids we have together. i wouldnt trade it for the world.
on the other hand i work with a guy who was never married, has no kids and changes girl friends regularly.
hes a motor cyclist who is really in to the whole freedom bit. he owns 15 cars, mostly muscle. 3 harleys. maxes out his contributions to his 401k within months of the new year and still has too much money.
hes the most lonely, ornery depressed looking guy i know. hes never happy and just an @ss to everyone at work unless your a drinking buddy.
ill stick with my wife and kids
adam jeffery

HAHAHA!

Im married 4 yrs and lovin it! gotta beautiful 10 month old baby girl that I wouldnt trade for all the snakes in the NERD facility and a super supportive (did i mention smokin hot!) wife that lets me do whatever I want ... well mostly but I couldnt ask for a better supporting cast. without her I wouldnt be able to do a lot of the things I want to do.... I guess if it happens it happens...

[KatStoverReptiles]

Well it looks like I'm in the minority here. When I was 17, I couldn't wait to be married and have kids. Seriously. The only thing that kept me from getting pregnant was fear of what my dad would do to me (and that wonderful little pill...but you get the point.)

I'm now 25 (yes...still a 'youngin' compared to some of you) and I've been married for almost 4 years. THANK GOD I didn't get pregnant by the (male donkey) I was dating when I was 17. We don't have any kids-yet. He brought to the relationship a daughter and while I only feel like a part time parent because of the custody arrangement, I love her all the same, but that's a story for a different daytime television show. We don't have kids because we're not in a financial position to support them.

My husband doesn't restrict anything I do. In fact, he makes most of the things I do better because I'm doing them with him and sharing that experience with him. The things I don't do because I'm married (i.e. sleep around, randomly move across country in the middle of the night, etc.) I have no desire to do because I love and respect him and value him.

I know it doesn't seem like it now, but please please please believe me when I tell you that when you look back on your 17-year old self in 5 SHORT years, you won't recognize you. Heck...I don't recognize me from 2 years ago, much less 5 or 10! And when you find that person (if you do...) that you WANT to spend the rest of your life with, you'll wonder why you ever thought you didn't want to get married. Never say never...

[Raptor]

Everyone claims that you'll change your mind later down the road. I wish people wouldn't say this because it's not always true. At 17 I had no desire to get married. I'll be 24 in a few months and I still feel the same.

I watched my mother go in and out of failed relationships for a decent portion of my teenage years. I'm not going to bother. It isn't worth the hassle.

[travis11]

HAHAHA!

Im married 4 yrs and lovin it! gotta beautiful 10 month old baby girl that I wouldnt trade for all the snakes in the NERD facility and a super supportive (did i mention smokin hot!) wife that lets me do whatever I want ... well mostly but I couldnt ask for a better supporting cast. without her I wouldnt be able to do a lot of the things I want to do.... I guess if it happens it happens...

I was just going to say the same thing exactly. My beautiful wife gave me my 8 month old son and he is the most amazing thing i have ever seen. Relationships can get tough, but the good times are totally worth the hardship.

[jbean7916]

Everyone claims that you'll change your mind later down the road. I wish people wouldn't say this because it's not always true. At 17 I had no desire to get married. I'll be 24 in a few months and I still feel the same.

I watched my mother go in and out of failed relationships for a decent portion of my teenage years. I'm not going to bother. It isn't worth the hassle.

Not everyone is saying that OP will change their mind, just that you change as a person a lot between 17-30 and you shouldn't make any rash decisions.

Oh and just because your mother had bad taste or couldn't make it work doesn't mean you can't. Don't let her actions be the only reason you make that choice.

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[Raptor]

Not everyone is saying that OP will change their mind, just that you change as a person a lot between 17-30 and you shouldn't make any rash decisions.

Oh and just because your mother had bad taste or couldn't make it work doesn't mean you can't. Don't let her actions be the only reason you make that choice.

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I've tried, I've failed, I'm not interested in it.

[Rob]

Everyone claims that you'll change your mind later down the road. I wish people wouldn't say this because it's not always true. At 17 I had no desire to get married. I'll be 24 in a few months and I still feel the same.

I watched my mother go in and out of failed relationships for a decent portion of my teenage years. I'm not going to bother. It isn't worth the hassle.

24 is still young, my buddy is finally starting to settle down and it took him past thirty.

[JulieInNJ]

ONLY YOU know what's right for you.

Can that change? Certainly.

If being single is what feels right for you, then go for it.

But don't be surprised if someone comes into your life that changes your mind entirely! That's what happened to me.

[aldebono]

Ill be getting married in October to my best friend. He isn't a hindrance, he isn't a burden, he isn't underfoot.

He is my adventure buddy, my personal comedian and chef, partner in crime, my confidant.

It isn't like dating, it's like hanging out with my best friend. Sometimes we may need some time alone or with other friends, and that's ok.

We don't play crappy relationship mind games. We play Skyrim. We don't run around on each other, we exercise together. Somehow we aren't tired of each other yet.

Not saying that you will change your mind about getting married, but when I think back on being 17 (24 now) I think 'WOW, I was a baby!'. If you don't believe me, then just wait. You will see.

Most important thing is to not worry about what you are going to do in the future and don't dwell in the past. Live for whats happening now and don't have regrets.

[Egapal]

2 x 0 = 0
Are you saying that everything you know now, you knew when you were 17? lol

No I am saying that I was clueless at 17 and now I am 33 and clueless. The more you learn the more you realize you don't yet know.