Twenty years old and I still can't talk to girls....fml

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

Let me rephrase: i hate spoiled, annoying, misbehaved kids. Well behave and polite ones are fine with me lol. Theyre just far and few between.

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Great Burmese Python food! :D

I think i'll just go live with Chantelle in the U.K. I want the leave the U.S. anyways with it's stupid snake bans. I've been talking to her for months now. She's beautiful, we get along great, I know a lot about her, and she's a big time exotics breeder over there. The list of exotics she has is too big to list. She has just about every type of exotic animal that you could think of. She has banana ball pythons, she has other very rare exotics. I could go on and on about all the reasons why she would be perfect for me. We love each other but we're not actually dating because of the distance and the fact that we haven't even seen each other. Need to at least meet her first lol

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Originally Posted by mainbutter

Drug dealing single mom who dumps the kid on you and has exes all over town?

Sounds like a winner.

Maybe your problem is that you're in Knoxville :rolleye2:

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You took the words right outta my mouth. The drug dealing single mom thing tho doesnt come as a surprise to me as i can step out my house an see them all day. But for real Evan she is bad news an not the good kinda bad news.

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Originally Posted by BallsUnlimited

But for real Evan she is bad news an not the good kinda bad news.

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When is bad news ever good? Haha.


Evan, I think you're rushing into finding the perfect girlfriend really fast.
Finding the right person takes time. You're 20. Still very young. Many people don't even know who they are at that age. I'm not saying that you don't, but people change a lot in their youth.


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Originally Posted by satomi325

When is bad news ever good? Haha.


Evan, I think you're rushing into finding the perfect girlfriend really fast.
Finding the right person takes time. You're 20. Still very young. Many people don't even know who they are at that age. I'm not saying that you don't, but people change a lot in their youth.


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Yeah I think you're right. I want to leave the U.S. anyways. I just don't know when. Maybe i'll get an apartment or a house somewhere near her, talk to her for a while, really get to know her and see where it goes. If it doesn't go anywhere well there's lots of other girls in the U.K. ;)

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Originally Posted by satomi325

When is bad news ever good? Haha.





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hahah good question maybe its just an NY thing hahah

I'll be honest, I'm laughing right now. I'm not laughing at you, but I'm laughing because I could have written this post almost verbatim when I was 20. Now I'm 28, I'm happily married, and although certain aspects of that still remain I've been able to overcome most of it. I even went so far in college as to subscribe to this weekly email newsletter entitled "How to talk to women" or "How to get a woman's number in 10 minutes" or something to that effect. It was totally ridiculous and basically taught guys how to come off as complete d-bags and only attract shallow women which wasn't what I was interested in doing.

I was the least confident guy you'd ever meet in high school and college, but once you get a little more confidence in yourself and feel comfortable in your own head it gets easier. Stop the self-analysis over everything and just be yourself.

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Originally Posted by TrpnBils

I'll be honest, I'm laughing right now. I'm not laughing at you, but I'm laughing because I could have written this post almost verbatim when I was 20. Now I'm 28, I'm happily married, and although certain aspects of that still remain I've been able to overcome most of it. I even went so far in college as to subscribe to this weekly email newsletter entitled "How to talk to women" or "How to get a woman's number in 10 minutes" or something to that effect. It was totally ridiculous and basically taught guys how to come off as complete d-bags and only attract shallow women which wasn't what I was interested in doing.

I was the least confident guy you'd ever meet in high school and college, but once you get a little more confidence in yourself and feel comfortable in your own head it gets easier. Stop the self-analysis over everything and just be yourself.

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Thank you very much! :)

I have found that when I don't think about it so much and just do it, talking to girls is actually very easy and not at all scary like I make it seem when I over analyze the situation lol

honestly you know what works for me. i make fun of myself. they laugh and then its on to normal conversation. Once you get over that hump(get your mind outta the gutter lol) it becomes rather easy. i use to be really really really shy now im a loud obnoxious creepy snake guy. dont ask me why but it works hahah

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Originally Posted by evan385

I have found that when I don't think about it so much and just do it, talking to girls is actually very easy and not at all scary like I make it seem when I over analyze the situation lol

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:gj: This whole thread, it's obvious that you spend too much time way over thinking things and you're making yourself nervous. Just talk man...most women will respond kindly in one way or another, though far less will actually be receptive. It's just how it is, so the more you talk, the more you're putting the odds in your favor of being talked back to. No offense, but you being 20 and talking about picking up and moving to another country near a girl you've been talking to via internet for 3 months is just plain crazy. Relax, don't think about things beyond the initial conversation, and roll with it as it goes. Too much thought and looking beyond now is only going to put pressure on yourself and you're gonna screw up. You'll know if/when things need to be taken up a notch.

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Originally Posted by mainbutter

Drug dealing single mom who dumps the kid on you and has exes all over town?

Sounds like a winner.

Maybe your problem is that you're in Knoxville :rolleye2:

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LOL,,, coming from sombody in MN....... everywheres got there crackheads.. If you hang out with the dogs,,, your gonna get flees......
spooky

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Originally Posted by evan385

Like the title says, i'm twenty years old now and I still can't talk to girls. I still tried the whole pass them a note thing like I did a couple days ago but i've only even done that twice, ever. So what the hell is wrong with me? Any time I want to talk to a pretty girl I sit there and think about it for a while and then by the time I have a chance i'm like "Screw it, what's the point?" As much as I would like to I always come to the conclusion that it's completely pointless and a waste of time. But I can talk to girls online like nothing. Guess I have no confidence. Anyone else with a similar problem or dealt with this before that can give me some advise?

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Here's your first problem. You're asking for advice from a bunch of strangers on an internet forum about snakes.

Go to the gym. Lift some weights to get big. Or if you're fat go running and don't eat so much. These will give you confidence and make you look more attractive.

Here's the second thing that makes you attractive to women $$$$. Get a job and make money. Go to school to get a better job and make more money so you can afford more women.

That's pretty much all there is to women. They like muscles and money. And shiny things like diamonds. But those come from the money.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Here's your first problem. You're asking for advice from a bunch of strangers on an internet forum about snakes.

Go to the gym. Lift some weights to get big. Or if you're fat go running and don't eat so much. These will give you confidence and make you look more attractive.

Here's the second thing that makes you attractive to women $$$$. Get a job and make money. Go to school to get a better job and make more money so you can afford more women.

That's pretty much all there is to women. They like muscles and money. And shiny things like diamonds. But those come from the money.

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Thanks for speaking for every single woman in existence. :rolleyes:

Frankly, I can't stand jewelry. It's annoying, easy to lose, and tends to get caught on things. Me? I like a guy capable of carrying on an intelligent conversation. Guy doesn't know anything about video games? No, thanks. Not much money? Eh, going out is a hassle. Much more fun to pop a DVD into the PS3 and watch something at home. If you're going to insist on buying me something, get me a video game. Flowers wilt after a few days, and half the time, chocolate goes to waste.

Point is, women aren't as black and white as you act like they are; claiming that they all like the same things is fairly foolish.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Here's the second thing that makes you attractive to women $$$$.
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That's pretty much all there is to women. They like muscles and money. And shiny things like diamonds. But those come from the money.

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Um.... no. :colbert:

I don't have much to say about this except that it's incorrect and very presumptuous. Raptor said most of it. I'm into video games and intelligent conversation as well, and I couldn't care less about how many muscles or money a guy has or whether he gives me shallow gifts like jewelry.

I don't know what women you've dated are like, but most of the girls I know (including myself) would be put off by that sort of attitude.

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Originally Posted by rebelrachel13

Um.... no. :colbert:

I don't have much to say about this except that it's incorrect and very presumptuous. Raptor said most of it. I'm into video games and intelligent conversation as well, and I couldn't care less about how many muscles or money a guy has or whether he gives me shallow gifts like jewelry.

I don't know what women you've dated are like, but most of the girls I know (including myself) would be put off by that sort of attitude.

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Move to new york an youll see why people say this haha

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Here's your first problem. You're asking for advice from a bunch of strangers on an internet forum about snakes.

Go to the gym. Lift some weights to get big. Or if you're fat go running and don't eat so much. These will give you confidence and make you look more attractive.

Here's the second thing that makes you attractive to women $$$$. Get a job and make money. Go to school to get a better job and make more money so you can afford more women.

That's pretty much all there is to women. They like muscles and money. And shiny things like diamonds. But those come from the money.

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lmao. So like if i become a doctor or lawyer how many women you think i could afford then...? Can i use my credit card to buy them or only cash...?

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Originally Posted by BallsUnlimited

Move to new york an youll see why people say this haha

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Haha! No thanks. I'll stay put down here for now. :rofl:

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Originally Posted by rebelrachel13

Haha! No thanks. I'll stay put down here for now. :rofl:

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we get that a lot when we tell people to come here. i dont think people like ny haha

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Here's your first problem. You're asking for advice from a bunch of strangers on an internet forum about snakes.

Go to the gym. Lift some weights to get big. Or if you're fat go running and don't eat so much. These will give you confidence and make you look more attractive.

Here's the second thing that makes you attractive to women $$$$. Get a job and make money. Go to school to get a better job and make more money so you can afford more women.

That's pretty much all there is to women. They like muscles and money. And shiny things like diamonds. But those come from the money.

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Spot on! Kudos!

Just kidding, This dont apply to any woman I ever met. However, funny reading :)

The one line I have used a lot and was pretty successful for me....
"Wow, you look gorgeous. What would a guy like me have to do to take you out for some dinner?"
I'm telling you, women love to hear they look beautiful. They also like to feel like they are in control. Just a little hint. Don't use that line to pick up a female that you didn't think was good looking when you are thinking with the wrong intentions(if you know what I mean). When you aren't saying it the next morning you are in big trouble:oops:. If I was in your shoes and reading this I would probably feel that I was inferior to other men. Just get out there and have a few nights out with some smokin' hotties. Trust me, when you do, you will see that you have been missing out. Once you find a women you really like and eventually fall in love with, you will realize that she is the world to you. Nothing can replace finding your soul mate in life. When you guys laugh, you will laugh on cue. When you smile, it will be at the same things. Best of all...When you are around each other, your souls are free. You can't have that feeling unless you get out and find her though. Oh yeah, don't fall in love with the first one.

I agree with Raptor, flowers, money, jewelry, muscles are not my cup of tea. A guy with an ego is a deal breaker. A guy who interrupts me gives me the impression that he thinks what he has to say is more important than what I am saying.

One day I will go to jail for murdering the guy who yells "Ay Girl!". They usually hide right after they yell it and I can't find the culprit. One day... one will get careless and stay out in the open.

Be kind, be genuine, be smart, and any if any girl is rude to you then she doesn't deserve you anyway.

That first date of bowling, onion rings, and soda sounds like an A+++ date to me! Sometimes, I think I might be Liz Lemon.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Go to the gym. Lift some weights to get big. Or if you're fat go running and don't eat so much. These will give you confidence and make you look more attractive.

Here's the second thing that makes you attractive to women $$$$. Get a job and make money. Go to school to get a better job and make more money so you can afford more women.

That's pretty much all there is to women. They like muscles and money. And shiny things like diamonds. But those come from the money.

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I have to agree with Raptor and Aldebono.
While I understand what you're trying to say, I think the way you worded your post was bad.:colbert:

~ Staying fit and healthy is attractive. (Big brawley muscles gross me out)
~ A highly educated person with a respectable job is attractive. (Not the numbers of a paycheck)

While confidence is good. Arrogance is a huge turn off. Well, it is to me at least. I find jewelry(Diamonds) pointless. My mother tries to give me her jewels, but I always refuse. I have no interest in them. The only time I wear any sort of jewelry is for formal occasions (I.E formal parties, Weddings, etc etc). But even that is a once a year type of thing for me. It's not practical to wear any on a daily basis due to the chances of getting banged up, lost, limited movement etc. I play a lot of contact sports and musical instruments so it just doesn't feel good to wear ...

For me personally, I'd rather get a new computer or a parts upgrade for my gaming pc. Maybe some new car parts if the guy is knowledgeable (I'm more knowledgeable about cars than my boyfriend, so I don't really expect anything like that from him).

If someone were willing to pay hundreds or thousands of dollars on a diamond for me, I'd rather take cash or receive a gift that's more practical and/or useful to me. :\

To me: Shiny electronic stuff = GOOD. Shiny rocks = Bad

As Raptor said, "women aren't as black and white as you act like they are; claiming that they all like the same things is fairly foolish."
Girls like different things. We're not all the same.

To Evan, like I said before, get to know the girl first. Especially before buying her some diamonds. Get her something she will appreciate and/or find useful if you do plan on getting a gift. If your future partner likes diamonds, get her diamonds. If she likes other things, get her those type of things. The point is to get something she'll enjoy.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Here's your first problem. You're asking for advice from a bunch of strangers on an internet forum about snakes.

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This I do not agree with. In fact your entire post is asinine but i'll comment on this first. You see a bunch of strangers on the internet. I see family. I trust my family on this forum more than anyone, which is why i'm willing to share some of the more intimate details of my personal life. I love you guys :)

Being attractive and making money may not get you women on this forum. But I guarantee it will get you more women than you're getting now. In your situation I don't think beggars can be choosers. Besides, you need to run through at least a hundred hood rats so by the time you find a girl you like, or likes you (in your case there's no real difference), you'll at least be ok with women.

If he's wanting a quick fling, sure, that'll get him women. If he's wanting a lasting relationship, that's not the way to do it. Frankly, I question if you even know anything about women. I know plenty of other women who aren't shallow like you claim all women are. None of them are on this forum or are even involved with reptiles.

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Originally Posted by Raptor

If he's wanting a quick fling, sure, that'll get him women. If he's wanting a lasting relationship, that's not the way to do it. Frankly, I question if you even know anything about women. I know plenty of other women who aren't shallow like you claim all women are. None of them are on this forum or are even involved with reptiles.

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I don't claim all of them are shallow. I'm not looking for Mrs. Right, just Mrs. Tonight. And I beg to differ on a lasting relationship. The relationship will last as long as he's giving her the things I mentioned, or the things other people mentioned.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

I don't claim all of them are shallow. I'm not looking for Mrs. Right, just Mrs. Tonight. And I beg to differ on a lasting relationship. The relationship will last as long as he's giving her the things I mentioned, or the things other people mentioned.

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Wow...I love your logic :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by EricWright

I don't claim all of them are shallow. I'm not looking for Mrs. Right, just Mrs. Tonight. And I beg to differ on a lasting relationship. The relationship will last as long as he's giving her the things I mentioned, or the things other people mentioned.

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So basically, you only want one night stands.

Also, I'd like to point out that my step-dad did none of the things that you outlined..And he's been married to my mom for nearly ten years. Frankly, your advice is poor and shouldn't be listened to by anyone.

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Originally Posted by Raptor

So basically, you only want one night stands.

Also, I'd like to point out that my step-dad did none of the things that you outlined..And he's been married to my mom for nearly ten years. Frankly, your advice is poor and shouldn't be listened to by anyone.

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I agree with you completely. Dude your advice is not appreciated or wanted.

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Originally Posted by Raptor

So basically, you only want one night stands.

Also, I'd like to point out that my step-dad did none of the things that you outlined..And he's been married to my mom for nearly ten years. Frankly, your advice is poor and shouldn't be listened to by anyone.

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And who did your mom do before you're step-dad? That relationship obviously worked out well.

The obvious troll is obvious...

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Originally Posted by EricWright

And who did your mom do before you're step-dad? That relationship obviously worked out well.

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She was married to a man she met at her work. He at first pretended to be a family man, nice, etc. After she married him, he turned into a verbally abusive man. He would purposely try to start fights between her and I. So, she divorced him.

She divorced my father because he flat out told her he no longer loved her, plus he was mentally and physically abusive. Along with being a rapid cycling manic depressive.

I have the feeling that this thread is going to get really bad lol

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Originally Posted by Raptor

She was married to a man she met at her work. He at first pretended to be a family man, nice, etc. After she married him, he turned into a verbally abusive man. He would purposely try to start fights between her and I. So, she divorced him.

She divorced my father because he flat out told her he no longer loved her, plus he was mentally and physically abusive. Along with being a rapid cycling manic depressive.

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Wow, i'm sorry that you had to go through that. Um...-hugs you-?

Everyone, just ignore him....
Nothing good comes out of feeding trolls.....

Bring them fishing.
If they don't want to go fishing with you, I don't know how to talk to that kind of girl. LOL

Be yourself. I'm sure you'll meet plenty of nice girls.

I wish I was 20 again!

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Originally Posted by Raptor

She was married to a man she met at her work. He at first pretended to be a family man, nice, etc. After she married him, he turned into a verbally abusive man. He would purposely try to start fights between her and I. So, she divorced him.

She divorced my father because he flat out told her he no longer loved her, plus he was mentally and physically abusive. Along with being a rapid cycling manic depressive.

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Sorry to hear that. Life sucks. But you have proved nothing about the future of hers or any other relationship. The are all ephemeral and no one knows what the future holds.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Sorry to hear that. Life sucks. But you have proved nothing about the future of hers or any other relationship. The are all ephemeral and no one knows what the future holds.

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..My grandparents were married for 51 years. That's not shortlasting.

However, trying to convince you otherwise is pointless, seeing that you've already admitted to being a man who's only interested in one night stands.

Your advice isn't wanted here.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Being attractive and making money may not get you women on this forum. But I guarantee it will get you more women than you're getting now. In your situation I don't think beggars can be choosers. Besides, you need to run through at least a hundred hood rats so by the time you find a girl you like, or likes you (in your case there's no real difference), you'll at least be ok with women.

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just let us know how the end of your story goes :) why do i picture you with only half your money in the future....

Off topic:
Hey Evan, got your PM. Thanks for the comment. I really appreciate it :)
I tried to reply, but it says your inbox was full.

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Originally Posted by satomi325

Off topic:
Hey Evan, got your PM. Thanks for the comment. I really appreciate it :)
I tried to reply, but it says your inbox was full.

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You're very welcome :D And I cleared my inbox so try again. You should upload some more pictures so I can see that pretty face :P

So I finally had the time to catch up on this whole thread... Raptor's got it pretty close, though if I have enough video games and books, shiny gemstones are a weakness for me... but that's me.

What I wanted to add was the other side of the coin: Years ago when I was into the club and party scene, no guy would come up to me! I took an incredibly low self esteem friend of mine one night and she was constantly hit on. I asked one of my guy friends what the problem was and he told me I looked "too intimidating" or "too self confident to be single." I didn't necessarily feel that way, but apparently looked that way. There I was hoping guys would talk to me and when I did flirt at the bar, I'm told, scared them by speaking to them!

Somewhere along the way I just gave up and every relationship I had since I was 20 was either initiated by me or grew from a friendship initiated by me. Oh, but how I wish just one guy had the nerve to talk to me back then! (Or buy the pretty girl a drink, sheesh!) Just sayin' my 2 cents...

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Originally Posted by sleepygeckos

So I finally had the time to catch up on this whole thread... Raptor's got it pretty close, though if I have enough video games and books, shiny gemstones are a weakness for me... but that's me.

What I wanted to add was the other side of the coin: Years ago when I was into the club and party scene, no guy would come up to me! I took an incredibly low self esteem friend of mine one night and she was constantly hit on. I asked one of my guy friends what the problem was and he told me I looked "too intimidating" or "too self confident to be single." I didn't necessarily feel that way, but apparently looked that way. There I was hoping guys would talk to me and when I did flirt at the bar, I'm told, scared them by speaking to them!

Somewhere along the way I just gave up and every relationship I had since I was 20 was either initiated by me or grew from a friendship initiated by me. Oh, but how I wish just one guy had the nerve to talk to me back then! (Or buy the pretty girl a drink, sheesh!) Just sayin' my 2 cents...

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Am I so wrong about women? Not all women, but my point stands. My two cents.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Am I so wrong about women? Not all women, but my point stands. My two cents.

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The answer to your question is yes, yes you are lol.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Am I so wrong about women? Not all women, but my point stands. My two cents.

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Yes, you are wrong. Go away and stop trolling. We've already said that your advice is unwanted and unwelcome.

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Am I so wrong about women? Not all women, but my point stands. My two cents.

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You are very wrong about women. My fiancee isn't "ripped" or rich. When we buy presents for each other they are heartfelt, not necessarily expensive. I fell in love with him because he is genuine, hilarious, honest and loveable. He didn't have to spend hours at the gym or hundreds of dollars on me to catch me and he doesn't have to do it to keep me either.

sent from my EVO

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Originally Posted by EricWright

Being attractive and making money may not get you women on this forum. But I guarantee it will get you more women than you're getting now. In your situation I don't think beggars can be choosers. Besides, you need to run through at least a hundred hood rats so by the time you find a girl you like, or likes you (in your case there's no real difference), you'll at least be ok with women.

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Oh, and your use of the term "hood rat" tells me all I need to know about your lack of class.

Maybe the way you act is only attracting those types of people... Changing your approach might change your results.

sent from my EVO

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Originally Posted by jbean7916

Oh, and your use of the term "hood rat" tells me all I need to know about your lack of class.

Maybe the way you act is only attracting those types of people... Changing your approach might change your results.

sent from my EVO

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It's a quote from 40 year old virgin.

I haven't read this entire thread, but did read your post. I don't think it's being afraid or feeling that it's pointless, in my opinion it sounds like you got bit by the anxiety bug.