Personal, venting.... so fustrating.....

[hilabeans]

You've gotten great advice. You are in love with the idea of your ex - the crazy, sexy, cool, kooky - whatever - that made you fall in love in with her in the first place. But the REAL her was treacherous with your love.

She still holds power over you. That is the reality. It sucks - for you and your innocent current GF. But because she left you (in a totally selfish and despicable way, by the way), she's the unattainable fruit and you have no closure, so that gives her this undeserved measure of power over you.

For your own sanity I would cease all communication with the ex. You don't need her as a GF and you don't need her as a friend. She wields too much control over your heart, and your heart cannot be trusted. To me, the WAY she left you - that alone is enough to chop her out of your life for good. That is cold blooded and cruel. We don't know her side - heck, maybe you deserved it (devil's advocate), but if everything is as you said, those personality traits don't go away. They just get masked for a bit.

If you are thinking clearly, with your head and power of reason, and you truly have no love for your GF, then you should end it. But I would never do it with the thought of freeing up space for the ex. That tiger showed you her stripes and you should consider her an ex for good.