Really need some advice

[PghBall]

This is great advice also! I know I am going to get the whole "I hate you!" bit but obviously I need to be a responsible parent here and do the right thing. I really appreciate your input!

Explain it to her this way, A. She's only 16 and still a minor. That makes both you and your ex directly responsible for her actions. B. Although it is a choice she can make, until she is 18, it's your choice to try and stop her. Be tough, but fair. Don't worry about the "I hate you!" stuff. That will come to pass. Just smile and tell her "I still love you though". Let her know that being a parent isn't always easy. And someday when she is older, she'll understand why you did what you did.