Being married vs. being single

[Dracoluna]

When it comes to marriage, or even relationships for that matter, the only thing that counts is what you two feel for each other. I'm 29, been married twice, divorced once, and used to say that I was never getting married/have kids. The first marriage was a big mistake but taught me a lot. The second one, I used what I learned and married one of my best friends. The only person I'm closer to is my sister. We have an odd relationship or so I'm told. We don't do everything together, don't share a ton of interests, and our financials are kept completely separate. The only three things that we have in common are we love to game (how we met in the first place), our morals, and what we believe is financially important. This allows both of us our freedom while at the same time, gives us the support when we need it (not to mention that sex is much better than by myself). When my sister had a problem and I decided to drive halfway across the country with no notice, he told me to enjoy the trip and call if I needed anything. When he's wanted to go to a major card tournament for a weekend with the boys, I told him the same thing. We do a lot apart but because we trust each other, it doesn't affect our relationship. He's not an animal person but tolerates the zoo I brought with me. He'll never go to reptile shows or help with taking care of them, but I'm ok with that. If he insisted that we stay 'closer' or that I give up my animals (assuming I hadn't gotten in over my head), then we'd be going our separate ways but the same applies to him. We both came out of marriages where our partner tried to change who we are so it shows in the respect and freedom we give one another in this marriage. Like I said, people tell me it's odd but it works for us and that's what matters.

Don't give up on the idea and close yourself off from the possibility. Don't let others tell you that you will fall in love someday either. Keep yourself open and though you don't have to look for it, don't run if someone falls into your life. Live your life to the fullest and roll with what comes. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad, sometimes you're by yourself, and sometimes you're not. Never be scared to live it though that way, when you are older, you don't have a list of regrets.

As for Slim's lifestyle choice, I have a great guy friend who lives the same way. It works for him though I would recommend staying away from the married ones if you go that direction. It involves fewer weapons being pointed at you.