Quote Originally Posted by stitch18jr View Post
I am no where near lazy when it comes to cleaning their tank.

They are separated when they are fed, have been since the begining, but he has never eaten for me. He has not even shown interest. He doesnt stick his tongue out to smell it, or tense up or anything, he act as though nothing is there.

Is there another solution besides separating, because again, this is a cost i can not endure right now. They live in a 40 gal tank. I have added the mossy area for humidity and have been applying neosporin to the area.

and no, even if i had a dog, i could not bring him to the vet at the moment with the $3 i have in my bank account at the moment.
Perhaps surrendering him to a rescue where he CAN get the veterinary care that he needs might be the best solution right now.

Separating them during feeding does not solve the domination problem. A dominated animal (they're not cuddling, btw), is more prone to fasting, suppressed immune system, and illnesses.

Just look at the pictures you've posted - he NEEDS medical attention. You've asked for suggestions, separating them is what any of us will tell you.

You can pick up a six quart tub for $1, and get a UTH and thermostat for him and separate him from the female.

Otherwise, you're going to quite literally - love him to death.