Quote Originally Posted by kc261 View Post
You don't see it as a control freak because you are trapped inside it. But this really has control freak written all over it. I've been in a relationship like that, and trust me it is not fun.

One thing that makes me say this is your statement that you don't "have the balls" to stand up to him.

Another thing is, do you notice in all the stories about people who have pets that their SOs don't like, or vice versa, most of them say something about the person being willing to tolerate it because of the happiness it brings to the person they love. But you don't mention anything of this kind about your BF.

I advise that you try to take a step back from the relationship and look for signs of controlling behavior in other areas. Also, what do your friends and family think of this guy? If they also see the controlling aspect, run fast. Paradoxically, if they think he is too good to be true, that is also a big concern because most likely he is charming them and not showing his true self.
Well he can't be controlling her too much if she still has the snake....

I think before we jump all over and tell her that her boyfriend is a control freak, we should all just step back and realize that this isn't a Dear Annie forum, and we shouldn't be making such calls over the internet based on one little aspect of their lives.

It's ok to show concern for someone, but perhaps not so publicly. (i.e. PM's)