How To Get Someone That Does Not Like Snakes To Like Them?

[DSGB]

throw em in a snake pit.

[Siarah]

>.< Ya umm there are not snake pits where I come from

[kc261]

You don't see it as a control freak because you are trapped inside it. But this really has control freak written all over it. I've been in a relationship like that, and trust me it is not fun.

One thing that makes me say this is your statement that you don't "have the balls" to stand up to him.

Another thing is, do you notice in all the stories about people who have pets that their SOs don't like, or vice versa, most of them say something about the person being willing to tolerate it because of the happiness it brings to the person they love. But you don't mention anything of this kind about your BF.

I advise that you try to take a step back from the relationship and look for signs of controlling behavior in other areas. Also, what do your friends and family think of this guy? If they also see the controlling aspect, run fast. Paradoxically, if they think he is too good to be true, that is also a big concern because most likely he is charming them and not showing his true self.

[littleindiangirl]

I remember when I was in highschool.... it's amazing how much worldly wisdom one gains in a few years.

Like I said before, there are no definites in life. Do what makes you happy. Everything else is just noise.

[littleindiangirl]

You don't see it as a control freak because you are trapped inside it. But this really has control freak written all over it. I've been in a relationship like that, and trust me it is not fun.

One thing that makes me say this is your statement that you don't "have the balls" to stand up to him.

Another thing is, do you notice in all the stories about people who have pets that their SOs don't like, or vice versa, most of them say something about the person being willing to tolerate it because of the happiness it brings to the person they love. But you don't mention anything of this kind about your BF.

I advise that you try to take a step back from the relationship and look for signs of controlling behavior in other areas. Also, what do your friends and family think of this guy? If they also see the controlling aspect, run fast. Paradoxically, if they think he is too good to be true, that is also a big concern because most likely he is charming them and not showing his true self.

Well he can't be controlling her too much if she still has the snake....

I think before we jump all over and tell her that her boyfriend is a control freak, we should all just step back and realize that this isn't a Dear Annie forum, and we shouldn't be making such calls over the internet based on one little aspect of their lives.

It's ok to show concern for someone, but perhaps not so publicly. (i.e. PM's)

[Siarah]

KC, again I doubt that is really what it is. The statement saying "I wouldnt have the balls" was ment to be like I dont think I could let him go. Not I am scared of him and cant do it. Me and him have butted heads on many subjects as people do and I always stand up for myself. I just want some advice as to what other people may have done to convince their S.O. to let them keep what they enjoy. I really don't want to have to let any of them go. Being torn in both ways like a little kid whose parents just got divorced I guess.

My parents like him. They don't think he is the awsomest man alive but they like him. I don't tell my parents anything >.< we arn't that close. Hence y I graduated early from high school and am going off to school early. I want to get outta this house!!!!!!!

[DSGB]

>.< Ya umm there are not snake pits where I come from

im just pullin your leg.

i would say just dont push snakes on a person who is afraid. i got my mom to get over her fear through educating her about snakes. every last detail i know. after that she become interested in comming to my room to look at them and watch them feed. after a while she wanted to touch them and that lead to her holding and falling in love with them!!!

[ChicaPiton519]

The first time I fed my snake he was right up to the glass takin pictures of my snake eating!

Its the excitement =]
most people are like this, even if they hate snakes with a passion... snakes are just a powerful animal to watch... and i think thats what most people are afraid of...

he just likes the little whimmpy animals where I like the big strong animals that everyone is mostly afraid of lol.

its sad but true, i know a lot of guys that are like that, i have 2 huge german shepherds and 8 snakes, thats a lot for a guy to take in at once lol.

oh, and you really need to bring it up to him, because if you cant do that by now, idk... lol. you need to be able to talk to him whenever you want, and/or have to =]

- and to what DSGB said, my mom was the same way... both parents actually, specially about my BPs cause one struck at me the second i went to hold it at the pet shop... so they were weary... now my mom will open up the tubs she knows are good, and just grab one of my boys =] and she loves my female carpet! haha oh, and she wanted the 6 foot boa i have sitting in my room today... i really didnt care either way... but i do now seeing as i clean up Brazils poop! ahha. he will change eventually

[Siarah]

Haha chica u are my hero >.< 2 German Shepard's. Those are on my list of favorite dogs

[FIEND_FO_LYFE]

what we did for my mom, aunt, and cusin, was we showed them how loving they were, brough them around them alot, and slowly asked them if they would like to pet them, things like that.
some people just want NOTHING to do with snakes... but if you continue to show them how loving and doctile they are then some people start liking them more...