well they were sold to me as the spider being the female, but the pastel seems to behave more like a female to me. eats like a cow, whereas the spider is being a bit finicky as of the last two weeks. they are both over 1100g, so even if by some weird twist the smaller one is the female, i should still be ok, but the spider is a bit bigger.
the pastel was a bit more slower to start as a baby but he seems to have caught up.
and all kidding aside, the breeder guarenteed the sex. but with my luck, they would be backwards, lol