need parenting advice related to pet care

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I think this is extremely insightful and I appreciate your input. She is one who definitely struggles with personal organization and attention-- not only her age but just how she's wired. However she has learned to compensate with systems to help her be a good animal keeper. I forgot to mention above that she also has a hedgehog. She has a schedule that she follows to check food and water, clean the cages, feed the snake, etc. She has outright said that they are "just crickets" and doesn't seem to think or care that they have needs, too, and that's probably why they are being neglected.

I think you are wise to know what you are good at and stick to that, rather than spreading yourself too thin. Both my partner and I are both animal lovers and when we merged households we realized we have way too many . . . and as they die off from old age/disease we are not replacing them as quickly. I think my daughter is learning that now, and has stated she loves her chameleon (and she really does take excellent care of him) she is done having critters that need live food after her chameleon dies of old age. We also purposely don't let her have any pets that will outlive her leaving home and going to college, other than her snake, which I don't mind caring for. :-)

unfortunately for me a schedule still doesn’t do it for me, ive had points where im filled with immense guilt due to improper care but i still physically cant do anything, its a horrible feeling.

funny part is, i hate crickets and refuse to get any reptile that needs crickets. its not the noise or anything but rather the smell and how annoying they are if they get loose. in fact a panther chameleon is my dream, but i refuse to ever get one just cause of the crickets. ive learned that mentally i cant handle stuff that requires daily attention, which is why i stick with snakes because with a hognose only have to feed every few days and then once a week once they get older. i just have to control myself and only get snakes from here on out, no matter how much i want another animal


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