Very new to bps but I already love my lil guy

[donnadudette2003]

Its true that snakes don't need your companionship, to be held, etc... They can spend their whole life in a tank perfectly happy
but if you're training it to spend time with you daily and become a companion snake then training it to know exactly who you are and what you expect at a young age is the best plan.
In the long run, 3 weeks is nothing. It's true. Just like humans, when you're 35yrs old and waiting for a package from Amazon 3 weeks can be nothing, you've still got 65 years of your life left and 3 weeks goes by fast.
Now take that same human as a baby, and take him away from his mother/guardian for 3 weeks. This amount of time is dramatically more important for development and growth. The baby can learn so many new good and bad habits in those 3 weeks time that it could change them for years.

How many animals have you trained? Not just snakes. How often do you hear it's easier to teach them things when they're young? Such as gaining or losing habits, tricks, etc.
Trust is important.
If the snake spends no time learning that a human is going to be interacting with it other than "here is your mouse, I will take your poop. Good day" when you do decide you're going to interact with it it's going to get confused. "Why are you in my house touching my things? Noooo touchy! Whyyyy?!". It will think that something is different and wrong and it could cause them anxiety that something has changed.


Now as for them tolerating us holding them and not wanting physical attention, that's not true.
Once they have learned that you'd like to be their friend through general bonding, they miss us. We have a symbiotic relationship. My snakes will come to me when bored, lonely, have an itch, need help to shed, want a warm spot, etc. They know if they come to me i will interact with them. Such as my cats do.

If my snake comes to the glass when she sees I woke up in the morning, waits for me to open it, and then slithers up my arm and on to my neck to sleep for 3 hours.... you can't tell me she'd rather be in that tank and not on my person.
If when we're out at the park and she sees something move too fast or the grass tickled her and she speed slithers to me and up my body for safety, that response does not tell me that the snake is merely tolerating me.

Maybe you're not as close to your snakes, and that's why you feel like they're thinking "oh... he picked me up again. Why? Ugh. Please put me down. I have things to do" Instead of "oh hey my human! Hi human! Give me a scritch! Where are we going on our adventure today!?"

You do you, have your snakes attachment level be at your wanted level.... But training it asap is the best idea.