So, are my requirements too hard/high?

[LooptyLoo]

As a few previous posters have suggested, as long as she supports your hobbies, that's what matters. When my husband and I met, we had fairly different interests. But now, our idea of date time is an afternoon spent shooting and an evening spent gaming, lol. And now that I'm head over heels for my Ball Python, he's looking into getting a snake of some kind soon as well. Don't worry, she'll come along and be totally rad.

[OsirisRa32]

LOL I'm not a gamer, my husband is. I have plenty of other pursuits to follow while he plays, and he doesn't ride horses.

We're both shooters too, that was non-negotiable.

The reptile bit didn't happen until after our daughter came along. The hubby was ok with it, I had to be talked into it and now I'm worse than he is.

YAY for gamers and gunners!!

Ive got a snake lover and gunner on my hands but not a gamer...lol

[LooptyLoo]

YAY for gamers and gunners!!

[LunaTheBp]

Hey saw your post and it made me smile. There are definitely girls out there who can meet said requirements, but keep in mind that even if they don't love something at first it doesn't mean they cant find a reason to love it.

Finding someone worth keeping isn't about finding someone who's flawless, or just 'perfectly made for you', but loving them warts and all.



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Hey saw your post and it made me smile. There are definitely girls out there who can meet said requirements, but keep in mind that even if they don't love something at first it doesn't mean they cant find a reason to love it.

Finding someone worth keeping isn't about finding someone who's flawless, or just 'perfectly made for you', but loving them warts and all.

[Momto3boys]

Craig and I have been together for 13 years and we pretty much hate all of the same stuff...

I HATE fish, Im actually scared of them And he has a 220 gallon in our bedroom!
He hates birds, I have a house full..
Hes a gamer, if it were up to me Id throw out all of the games, etc in this house.
The list goes on and on ahaha....but we don't stop each other from doing what we love.

Okay, he did tell me no more birds

You'll find her when you least expect her

[Marrissa]

I agree with Freakie Frog. Find someone you connect with and have life goals/lifestyles that mesh. Not only that but you have to be able to talk to them and hang out with them like they're your best friend (and I think they should eventually be). My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We are totally opposite on a lot of our interests and likes but our life goals, plans, and lifestyles are similar. We don't enjoy all the same hobbies (I think fishkeeping might be the only one we share and I got him into that), but we both respect them and share in each others enthusiasm and enjoyments. He's not into snakes. He says they weird him out but he knows full well I will have a room for them when we get a house together, and he's fine with that.

Find someone that you get along with and like spending time with as a friend, but also find attractive and that's a good place to start. Specifying the hobbies they like isn't a good setup for success.

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This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

I wouldn't say so - for me I'd like it if we shared some common interests. Reptiles is an obvious must but she doesn't have to like fishing, and going to the gym. Or any of the other stuff I like but she does have to be accepting of the fact that I do like those things and they will take up a portion of my time. Attractiveness is a must but what is attractive? I find women attractive that a lot of other people don't and vica verca. I like the quirky, nerdy look - never been one for model grade "beauty." But I am realistic about it, I am not model grade good looking so it wouldn't make sense for me to expect that for myself - although I have been very lucky in the past with great looking women with good personalities.

My point is, standards are standards and if everyone here told you that your standards are too high, it wouldn't change a thing. We all know what we are looking for in a partner and nobody should have to settle. Settling is unfair to everyone involved. But that doesn't make you shallow either - you can't expect a whole package because it is rare. There are people out there that meet maybe 75% of my standards that I would date because I know to focus on the things that attract me to them. If you focus on the ways people don't meet up to your standards than you will never find what you're looking for. Just my experience.

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This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

I wouldn't say so - for me I'd like it if we shared some common interests. Reptiles is an obvious must but she doesn't have to like fishing, and going to the gym. Or any of the other stuff I like but she does have to be accepting of the fact that I do like those things and they will take up a portion of my time. Attractiveness is a must but what is attractive? I find women attractive that a lot of other people don't and vica verca. I like the quirky, nerdy look - never been one for model grade "beauty." But I am realistic about it, I am not model grade good looking so it wouldn't make sense for me to expect that for myself - although I have been very lucky in the past with great looking women with good personalities.

My point is, standards are standards and if everyone here told you that your standards are too high, it wouldn't change a thing. We all know what we are looking for in a partner and nobody should have to settle. Settling is unfair to everyone involved. But that doesn't make you shallow either - you can't expect a whole package because it is rare. There are people out there that meet maybe 75% of my standards that I would date because I know to focus on the things that attract me to them. If you focus on the ways people don't meet up to your standards than you will never find what you're looking for. Just my experience.

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This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

I wouldn't say so - for me I'd like it if we shared some common interests. Reptiles is an obvious must but she doesn't have to like fishing, and going to the gym. Or any of the other stuff I like but she does have to be accepting of the fact that I do like those things and they will take up a portion of my time. Attractiveness is a must but what is attractive? I find women attractive that a lot of other people don't and vica verca. I like the quirky, nerdy look - never been one for model grade "beauty." But I am realistic about it, I am not model grade good looking so it wouldn't make sense for me to expect that for myself - although I have been very lucky in the past with great looking women with good personalities.

My point is, standards are standards and if everyone here told you that your standards are too high, it wouldn't change a thing. We all know what we are looking for in a partner and nobody should have to settle. Settling is unfair to everyone involved. But that doesn't make you shallow either - you can't expect a whole package because it is rare. There are people out there that meet maybe 75% of my standards that I would date because I know to focus on the things that attract me to them. If you focus on the ways people don't meet up to your standards than you will never find what you're looking for. Just my experience.

[Toxic Tessa]

I don't think you are asking for too much, you just know what you like! Like others have said... you usually find somebody when you are not looking or even thinking about it.

Annnnnnnnnd just because I am am nosy... what kind of games do you play?

[SarWildDog]

Like other posters have said, finding someone who supports your hobbies will open your chances greatly. My boyfriend isn't big into reptiles, but I can blab to him day in and day out about my snakes. And I could watch him play video games all day I personally prefer single-player rpgs, but he plays a much larger variety.

[Neal]

I don't think you are asking for too much, you just know what you like! Like others have said... you usually find somebody when you are not looking or even thinking about it.

Annnnnnnnnd just because I am am nosy... what kind of games do you play?

I play battlefield 3 on the PC. I prefer realistic games but I've played a broad genre of games. I like zombie games too, just anything that has good graphics really. I mostly play bf3 though, at least until bf4 comes out then all my friends leave and the game goes dead. Then it'll probably be Titanfall, maybe.

I just have no intentions on getting rid of my snakes ever, so that's something that is non-negotiable, however I can spend less time gaming if I found something else to occupy my time but that would come with due time.

I enjoy doing a ton of other things and I'm open to somebody not liking the stuff I like, just as long as they don't try to tell me to get rid of it or stop doing it, that's what I should of originally stated as I worded it a bit wrong.