Quote Originally Posted by olstyn View Post
That's a pretty bleak attitude. It's also a blanket statement lacking in detail. Are you using some sort of dating service and people aren't contacting you, or are you talking about people you meet in person through your daily life, or something completely different?
I'm talking mostly about real life. I don't do dating services; tried an online relationship and it didn't work out.

What is it that you're lying about now? My baseline thought is that unless you're in the military or one of the federal alphabet soup agencies and need to protect your operational security, there's not much reason to be lying to people. I'm not saying that you should begin a conversation with a new person you've just met by dumping your life history on them, but starting out with lies is never a good idea.

There are plenty of things I don't bring up when I meet new people, depending on the setting, but I don't start things off by lying.
My overall demeanor, having to pretend I have emotions, to pretend I care. To feign I have the ability to connect to people. It's something I've never been able to do, made it a pain as a kid when I was an outsider because of it. I learned to hide it and lie.

I'm having a hard time not drawing a conclusion about what things about relationships you're uninterested in that make guys lose interest, but I also don't want to assume...
You're probably right, but to clarify without getting in trouble, it's what people do, who mostly like each other, to have a good time. Usually in the evening.