Any childfree by choice?

[AK907]

One friend I quit talking to because I felt she was borderline (verbally) abusive toward her kid, and I couldn't criticize, because "you (I) don't have kids, you (I) just don't understand." She once told me, after screaming at her toddler--this happened all the time--to never have kids.

Yup, this reminds me of a time we took my wife's little brother to the store. He was about 3.5-4 years old or so. He is hands down one of the worst behaved kids I've ever met because of how he is babied and allowed to have whatever he wants (to the point he was even bottle fed until 5 years old because he wouldn't eat normal food). Anyways, he was throwing a major temper tantrum (ie kicking and screaming on the floor, running down the isles knocking stuff off the shelves, etc) in the store and when we grabbed him and told him, "No!" we were verbally attacked by a group of people. According to them this was abuse and we had no right telling him, "No" and that he should be making his own decisions and should be allowed to "express himself". Since when is a toddler capable of making his own decisions and since when is it acceptable to "express yourself" by acting like a wild animal in public? Had it have been me when I was his age (circa 1988) my mom would have dropped my drawers and lit me up right then and there and I wouldn't haven't seen my Legos for a week! I knew better than to act like a little jerk because I knew I wouldn't get away with it. It might not have made much sense to me then, but it sure does now.

[lizlopez]

I think you will find more women making the perm. choice now that there is so much pressure about the "personhood" stuff. I was on a IUD for years after having my kids because my Dr thought I was a bit young to make the perm. choice. I am having my tubes done this fall but it has been 7 more years for me to be sure. with all the politics out there on what women can and cant do with their bodies if you dont want them just get it done.

[lizlopez]

I'm 26, no kids, don't want any. I don't want to babysit, hold your kid, or be around babies, they just don't do it for me at all. My b/f doesn't want kids either and we have been together for 8 years so my family has almost given up, my sister sold all her baby crap but my brother reproduced again and has 2 year old twins so they are always trying to get me to hold a baby or be around them like it will rub off. I've always said I don't want kids and always got told I'd change my mind. Pets are enough work and expense, I watch my sisters' kids at least once a month and thankfully they are grown enough to be cool (5 and 8) but it's still a long couple hours and I'm glad to get away lol.

I hate it when people try to make you like their kids. I have 2 kids and still dont like other peoples kids. "here hold the baby" .... I usualy say I have a cold or think i might be comming down with something.

My maternal instinct is to my kids not theirs

[Mike41793]

Yup, this reminds me of a time we took my wife's little brother to the store. He was about 3.5-4 years old or so. He is hands down one of the worst behaved kids I've ever met because of how he is babied and allowed to have whatever he wants (to the point he was even bottle fed until 5 years old because he wouldn't eat normal food). Anyways, he was throwing a major temper tantrum (ie kicking and screaming on the floor, running down the isles knocking stuff off the shelves, etc) in the store and when we grabbed him and told him, "No!" we were verbally attacked by a group of people. According to them this was abuse and we had no right telling him, "No" and that he should be making his own decisions and should be allowed to "express himself". Since when is a toddler capable of making his own decisions and since when is it acceptable to "express yourself" by acting like a wild animal in public? Had it have been me when I was his age (circa 1988) my mom would have dropped my drawers and lit me up right then and there and I wouldn't haven't seen my Legos for a week! I knew better than to act like a little jerk because I knew I wouldn't get away with it. It might not have made much sense to me then, but it sure does now.

And that right there folks, is why i hate kids lmao. When i see stuff like that i get such a strong urge to punch the kid right in the face. But then i think about it and im like actually i should be pissed at the parents bc its their job to raise the kid right.
Also kudos to the no legos. I also got my hotwheels and GI Joes taken away too!

[Mike41793]

I hate it when people try to make you like their kids. I have 2 kids and still dont like other peoples kids. "here hold the baby" .... I usualy say I have a cold or think i might be comming down with something.

My maternal instinct is to my kids not theirs

Or you just do what i do.
"No sorry i cant, ive dropped too many already..."
Im kidding, but it does make them not force me to hold their little poop monsters.

[wolfy-hound]

I'm 42. Since I was a small girl I have always said "I don't want kids." I have been told for 42 years "Oh, you'll change your mind."

42 year. Not once have I had any urge to have kids. Not. Once.

I'm not going to say "Oh, all kids are horrible monsters!" or "Society wouldn't allow me to raise my kid how I'd want to." or "Bad genes in the family." or any of the many many valid reasons and/or excuses that people use.

I don't want kids because I don't want kids. I have no urge to bear children, to have children, to hold babies, to have the continued generation. I know great parents and great kids, and bad parents and bad kids. I don't think that other people should or should not have kids, that's their own decisions. I see a lot of people having kids that I personally think shouldn't... but that's my personal opinion.

It's not abnormal to not want kids... any more than it's abnormal to not want a partner. It is entirely possible to live a full and happy life without a partner, without kids, or without pets or electronics or all these things that most people believe are "needed". It's all in what you YOURSELF wish to put into your life. Choice.

[AK907]

And that right there folks, is why i hate kids lmao. When i see stuff like that i get such a strong urge to punch the kid right in the face. But then i think about it and im like actually i should be pissed at the parents bc its their job to raise the kid right.
Also kudos to the no legos. I also got my hotwheels and GI Joes taken away too!

Right, you can't blame the kids. They lack the mental capacity for understanding right and wrong. In their minds the world revolves around them. When a child acts up, it is because the parents haven't instilled a set of decency in them.

And I miss my Legos!

[Rob]

No one should be put under pressure to have kids if they don't want them. That being said people that say they don't want kids because they don't like kids, I don't think they get the difference other people's kids and their own. Not many people like kids that are not their own, come on they are loud messy and non stop! But all that doesn't matter when you have your own. The feelings you have for your own kids can't be put into words. And someone that simply doesn't like kids shouldn't let that be the deciding factor about having kids of their own, because believe me you will love them no matter what.

[AK907]

No one should be put under pressure to have kids if they don't want them. That being said people that say they don't want kids because they don't like kids, I don't think they get the difference other people's kids and their own. Not many people like kids that are not their own, come on they are loud messy and non stop! But all that doesn't matter when you have your own. The feelings you have for your own kids can't be put into words. And someone that simply doesn't like kids shouldn't let that be the deciding factor about having kids of their own, because believe me you will love them no matter what.

I dunno about that. I don't like cats and dogs. I don't like yours and I didn't like them when we had them. So I have to believe it when people say, "I don't like kids", even if it is their own kids. Not everyone likes their own kids.

[Rob]

I dunno about that. I don't like cats and dogs. I don't like yours and I didn't like them when we had them. So I have to believe it when people say, "I don't like kids", even if it is their own kids. Not everyone likes their own kids.

Lol did you really just try comparing cats and dogs to kids? I think you kind of missed the point there.