Disturbing

[JLC]

I moved this thread out of the Ball Python forum because it's not about ball pythons.

To the OP....

I'm sorry you've seen some threads/discussions here that you find disturbing. We do have an ebb and flow of negative topics here at times. We can go for long stretches with nothing but "nice" threads...and then have a span of days or a week or two with a number of controversial threads popping up. It happens. It's just the nature of the venue.

While it's all fine and good to say, "We should all be able to get along and be nice, even when we disagree on something"...that is an impossibly vague idea to be able to live up to. Everyone has different opinions that they wish to express....and everyone has different degrees of tolerance on how topics and disagreements are handled.

Also, each person has a completely different skill set when it comes to dealing with other people, expressing their own opinion/feelings, and communicating in this very limited and specific format of text in an open forum. Some people are exceptional diplomats capable of clear and concise communication with the written word. Some people, regardless of the manner of communication, are incapable of expressing their opinion without being aggressive or condescending or defensive or whatever. Some people just aren't that good at putting their thoughts into a written format, no matter how good their intentions.

You say, "But, I am a firm believer that it can be done in a calm and collective manner without any snide remarks or privacy infringing statements." ....and I say, "Show me an open, public forum with more than a few hundred active members that never has a single snide remark or a difference of opinion that comes across a little heated."