Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

[shescountry89]

Bruce totally gets it. He sees the passionate side of a persons hobbies/interests like I do. I have known people with interests that were not mine but it is so true. When you truly care about someone their differences dont matter to you. Thats all you need to know and you already know that. We sometimes need to learn some self control in that dept. For instance. I love my snakes and talk about snakes any chance I get. If im hanging out with someone who really couldnt care less about snakes then I just keep it short and sweet and then move on to something else. I pick up on peoples reactions and adjust accordingly but my friends who do not like snakes would never shun me for it. They accept it and it makes them happy to see me happy.

Its all about acceptance. You know whats up, you just didnt want to admit it because he was your don jaun in the beginning. I see you as being the type to not fight about it but instead, just gracefully bow out. If thats wha happens his loss will be your gain.

When it comes to my friends I am always very aware of who doesn't mind me talking snakes and who does. I am very careful, and I really haven't talked much about it with him. But sometimes I tell him I have cages to clean after work, or its feeding day and he'll be like "You and your snakes, seriously.. text me whenever you are done messing with them" or something like that. I don't fight on it, I hate fighting. I really don't have a mean bone in my body.

I did not read through all 8437 posts.........put I wanted to say this:

You are such a little hottie...
You have sooooooo much going for you...
You are very outgoing....
You have a passion for things that matter to you....

These are just some of the things that I noticed about you in your posts and pics.

Now with all of that being said....someone should treat you like a totally rare beautiful flower. (Im not saying that you are fragile) I am saying that you are special and should be treated like that. Someone should love you for who YOU are....and love the things about you. My husband loves my passion for things....even if he himself doesn't have a passion for that paticular thing....it is his passion to support what I love and vice versa.

Don't ever get discourage and settle because I promise you the perfect person that meets ALL of your expectations IS out there....sometimes it just takes a LONG time to find him. Do not ever let anyone tell you that you standards are too high......they are not. Have fun with yourself...your friends...and your family. If and when you meet the right one....you will totally know it!!!


It took me until I was 34 yrs old to find him....and he was and still is everything I wanted in someone. (He met all of those expectations)!!!!!

Thank you hun, that post made me smile a bit. Waiting is the worst part though, it really is. Hah. I guess from now on I'll go back to focusing on work, and more important things. Doing what I love and not letting anyone hold me back.

I'm also late to this thread... Sheesh, 10 pages! You've got an awesome support team going on here!!

I just wanted to say that I moved in with my BF after 1 month of dating and we've been together for 5 years, and still going strong... BUT, it was under totally different circumstances. Imo, him getting all huffy over not moving in together throws a huge red flag.

Also just wanted to say that you are young, and you have the rest of your life to find the person that makes you happy. If this one isn't the one, at least you know now, right? Starting the search again isn't fun... But it's rewarding when you find that golden egg.

Yeah, I wasn't expecting that many pages actually. It suprises me how many friends I have on here. It makes me feel a lot better and everyone has helped me realize what I was trying to make myself believe wasn't true. Everyone has different situations.

Congrats that yours is working out.