Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

[waltah!]

Things are going way to fast for me, I'm not ready for it and I've tried explaining it to him but it's like it goes in one ear and out the other.

Sounds like you are answering your own question.

[shescountry89]

Someone who said that to me would no longer be a friend, much less a boyfriend.
I consider a statement like that to be a huge red flag. This guy is trying to make you feel worthless, like he's doing you a favor by being your boyfriend.

He is NOT treating you well, he's just treating you crappy in a different way than others have before.

There are GOOD men out there. Seriously. You just have to keep looking, and be willing to throw back the fish that aren't worth keeping. You deserve someone who is supportive of your interests, and loves you for who you are. Remember, whether he loves you are not is irrelevant here. He isn't making you happy, so this isn't going to work. Try again with someone more compatible.

I feel so stupid, because in a way I thought he was treating me alright until I realized what he is trying to do. I know that statment he made was pretty bad, I was kind of speechless and didn't know how to really respond for a minute 'cause I wasn't sure if he'd actually said it or I was dreaming it. I think i've been trying to make myself believe that I was really happy, because its what i want more than anything. I've never been that happy in my life except when I am doing something I love.

[shescountry89]

Alright, I am so glad I found your post! My last relation ship was just like this. We dated for two years, but just like you stated, very early on he is trying to take charge. From my findings of my last relationship, it's not going to work out either way. I will admit I was hooked on the guy, and I listened and got rid of my last snakes that I had, and we spent all the time in the world together, almost none of which was with my friends. But it doesn't end there... first it's the snakes, next they will want you to move in with them, maybe stop talking to certain friends that you have, etc.. Over all, they end up just wanting to be the dominate one, and control every aspect of your life, and I am not the one for that. I lost a lot of friends from that relation ship, and well, my animals of course.

I don't want to bring you down, I'm just saying, most likely it is not going to stop with just the snakes, it will continue into other things, and nothing will be good enough for him. I do wish you the best, and again, I don't want to bring you down, just wanted to let you in on my life so hopefully you will make the right decision for you.

I think I just needed other people to tell me the hard truth of what I was being to naive to really see. Because I didn't want to believe it. Because you are right, he get's all weird about me hanging out with my best friends who is really important to me and is one of the only other reasons I am normally staying sane.

I just needed other people to get it into my head, because i wasn't going to admit it that it was going to get this way. I didn't want to believe it. Not agian.

[Seru1]

:puts on my dress and pumps:


Girl you gots ta drop that zero and gets you a hero!

:Head bobs and snaps:


Sorry I always wanted to go all daytime talk show.


The other posters are totally right, you can't depend on others for happiness. True happiness comes from within, You can't change for anyone only for you!

Take it from a fish not worth keeping for totally different reasons. We can smell our own and this guy is a jerkwad!

[bsash]

I think I just needed other people to tell me the hard truth of what I was being to naive to really see. Because I didn't want to believe it. Because you are right, he get's all weird about me hanging out with my best friends who is really important to me and is one of the only other reasons I am normally staying sane.

I just needed other people to get it into my head, because i wasn't going to admit it that it was going to get this way. I didn't want to believe it. Not agian.

Glad I could help, and before it turned too late.

[shescountry89]

:puts on my dress and pumps:


Girl you gots ta drop that zero and gets you a hero!

:Head bobs and snaps:


Sorry I always wanted to go all daytime talk show.


The other posters are totally right, you can't depend on others for happiness. True happiness comes from within, You can't change for anyone only for you!

Take it from a fish not worth keeping for totally different reasons. We can smell our own and this guy is a jerkwad!

Ha, thanks. I appreciate it. I really know how to pick them.

Glad I could help, and before it turned too late.

Thanks, I am too.

[Seru1]

Ha, thanks. I appreciate it. I really know how to pick them.

Instead of thinking about the bad ones think about all the good friends in life you've picked. And all the great family you didn't but got anyway. It's easy in times like these to get abit down and its healthy to. But don't ever forget you have alot of people that care about you!

And some of those people are right here just a click away and ready to talk. Can't do much else but we can talk. ^_^

[llovelace]

I'll give the same advice I'd give my daughters, DUMP him now and don't look back. I only read the first paragraph, but that was enough for me.

[bsash]

Exactly, we could always talk. God knows I am on here enough, ha ha.

[CoolioTiffany]

It might sound like I'm repeating what everyone else is saying, but I'm trying to put this in my own words LOL.

Always get a guy who can respect you and respect what you love doing. Right now I'm workin' with the BF to prove snakes aren't always mean, and he said he would come over to see them. He's just a bit freaked out by them because he got bit by a Rattlesnake which seems like a pretty bad experience to me.

My point is, if you can get him to work with you to see that snakes really aren't even that bad, then that relationship will go downhill. If he's already trying to get you to move in but making you give up some snakes, I wouldn't do it. Heck even if I was your age I would never move in with my BF if he wanted me to give some snakes away first. No one will ever make me give up what I love, it has to be my choice whether I want to give something away or not.

Laura, you're a strong girl and I know how you feel, there really is not too many guys who actually pay attention and treat you well, but they are out there. If this doesn't work out, just keep looking for more possibilities.