It all makes sense now, say no more marine... Or did we call you jarheads.No offense, I was a flyboy.
Tough love and saying "man up" are two different things in my opinion. Tough love is presenting reality. Telling someone to "man up" is telling them they need to fit the societal image of a man who is tough, rugged and impermeable, in other words in-human. I don't disagree with everything you said, just one thing.