Quote Originally Posted by Salamander View Post
That is what is probably hurting me most...he isn't listening and he isn't 'talking'.

I don't think he wants me to know where he is...at least, for now.

Before, he never 'shut up'.

Mostly he was griping about this house being "too small".
Quote Originally Posted by Salamander View Post
He wanted more room...and picked a really lousy way to drive the point home.

I sometimes feel mad at him...and then at myself for not 'listening' to him and acting sooner.


For one thing, I don't think you should allow yourself to feel so personally responsible for this. It is hindering not only your search for Alice but your ability to function. Take a step back and don't force yourself to feel guilty for all this.

I know this is a very stressful and heart-wrenching time for you. But I think you ought to relax and breathe as others are telling you.

It might also help if you try not to anthropomorphize your snake. For your sake, try to temporarily tone down the "If I had just gotten him a bigger cage..." thing. I think you and I both know that is a bit of a stretch - you could give him a mansion and he would still look for (and most certainly find) ways to escape. It has nothing to do with space.

I think you need to take a step back and stop tearing the house apart. He definitely will not turn up if you keep turning over all his hiding spots; he'll just move to yet another cozy spot.