Significant Other Losing Interest...

[Annarose15]

All I can say is if my bf told me to not get any more snakes and to give up some of the ones I have already he'd be out of my life in a heartbeat...IMO it's not fair of him to tell you what to do with your animals and to get mad over something that he knows you've been wanting to do/accomplish. I think it's very selfish of him to do so. And if he can't back you on your breeding goals what else will he have a problem with down the road? What else will he not support you with?

Eight months isn't a long time to be with someone IMO, and there are red flags waving in the relationship already it seems from this issue between you two. I think I'd be taking a step back and really see where things are going with this guy and see if it's worth making yourself unhappy over (and you're obviously unhappy now!).

Just my .2 cents.

x1000

When I got into this hobby, the "plan" was one normal female and a bumblebee male, and eventually a pied. Well, as you can see from my signature, plans changed! I have been with my bf 3.5 years, and he definitely thinks I drank the Koolaid somewhere along the line (thanks for the first sip, Deborah! ). However, he understands that they are my thing, that I have goals for them, and that he can just stay out of it if he doesn't want to participate. He helps financially from time to time (my Mojo was a Christmas present), but otherwise they are mine, which means my responsibility to care for, as well. You and your bf need to set clear boundaries and expectations so he doesn't feel put upon for "your" animals, or neglected because of them. Your relationship sounds way too new to have truly shared/joint pets anyway, and I say this with having a live-in s/o (only one BP is "ours", and he knows it stays with me if he leaves).

Oh, and by clear boundaries, I DON'T mean a number you are "permitted" to have, unless there is a timeline associated with it. For example, one new one per 6 months, etc., if it's based on financial or space concerns.