Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

[BallsUnlimited]

Haha Thanks you. Yeah, most of the guys who like reptiles I meet here are either taken ... or married o.O Just my luck usually. Til i think I meet the right one, but he doesn't support me.

Hope all this works out, I am not looking forwards to how this is going to end tonight.

Ballsunlimited not taken hahah...Hope all goes well and were here for you if you need anything....

[Foschi Exotic Serpents]

Bruce totally gets it. He sees the passionate side of a persons hobbies/interests like I do. I have known people with interests that were not mine but it is so true. When you truly care about someone their differences dont matter to you. Thats all you need to know and you already know that. We sometimes need to learn some self control in that dept. For instance. I love my snakes and talk about snakes any chance I get. If im hanging out with someone who really couldnt care less about snakes then I just keep it short and sweet and then move on to something else. I pick up on peoples reactions and adjust accordingly but my friends who do not like snakes would never shun me for it. They accept it and it makes them happy to see me happy.

Its all about acceptance. You know whats up, you just didnt want to admit it because he was your don jaun in the beginning. I see you as being the type to not fight about it but instead, just gracefully bow out. If thats wha happens his loss will be your gain.

[shescountry89]

I'm a bit late as well.

Everyone here has told you the truth and given good advise, so I won't add to it.

I will say this, after more bad experiences with guys who were jerks and users than I can count, I did find the one for me. I've been with Kyle for 20 years now, and I love him more than anything.

Sure we have our ups and downs, all couples do. But after so many years, his heart beats in my chest and mine is his. We live for each other and with each other, and no one can change that.

Please don't loose hope, the right guy is out there, and when the time is right, he'll find you. In the mean time, tell this looser not to let the door hit him in the butt on they way out it.

Gale

I always like hearing that kind of stuff, still gives me some kind of faith and hope. I wish I could have been like my sisters who had met their husbands and become highschool sweethearts. Met when they were 15 and 17 and they are now 32 and each have 3 kids.

thank you, gale.

[BPelizabeth]

I did not read through all 8437 posts.........put I wanted to say this:

You are such a little hottie...
You have sooooooo much going for you...
You are very outgoing....
You have a passion for things that matter to you....

These are just some of the things that I noticed about you in your posts and pics.

Now with all of that being said....someone should treat you like a totally rare beautiful flower. (Im not saying that you are fragile) I am saying that you are special and should be treated like that. Someone should love you for who YOU are....and love the things about you. My husband loves my passion for things....even if he himself doesn't have a passion for that paticular thing....it is his passion to support what I love and vice versa.

Don't ever get discourage and settle because I promise you the perfect person that meets ALL of your expectations IS out there....sometimes it just takes a LONG time to find him. Do not ever let anyone tell you that you standards are too high......they are not. Have fun with yourself...your friends...and your family. If and when you meet the right one....you will totally know it!!!


It took me until I was 34 yrs old to find him....and he was and still is everything I wanted in someone. (He met all of those expectations)!!!!!

[Elise.m]

I'm also late to this thread... Sheesh, 10 pages! You've got an awesome support team going on here!!

I just wanted to say that I moved in with my BF after 1 month of dating and we've been together for 5 years, and still going strong... BUT, it was under totally different circumstances. Imo, him getting all huffy over not moving in together throws a huge red flag.

Also just wanted to say that you are young, and you have the rest of your life to find the person that makes you happy. If this one isn't the one, at least you know now, right? Starting the search again isn't fun... But it's rewarding when you find that golden egg.

[shescountry89]

Bruce totally gets it. He sees the passionate side of a persons hobbies/interests like I do. I have known people with interests that were not mine but it is so true. When you truly care about someone their differences dont matter to you. Thats all you need to know and you already know that. We sometimes need to learn some self control in that dept. For instance. I love my snakes and talk about snakes any chance I get. If im hanging out with someone who really couldnt care less about snakes then I just keep it short and sweet and then move on to something else. I pick up on peoples reactions and adjust accordingly but my friends who do not like snakes would never shun me for it. They accept it and it makes them happy to see me happy.

Its all about acceptance. You know whats up, you just didnt want to admit it because he was your don jaun in the beginning. I see you as being the type to not fight about it but instead, just gracefully bow out. If thats wha happens his loss will be your gain.

When it comes to my friends I am always very aware of who doesn't mind me talking snakes and who does. I am very careful, and I really haven't talked much about it with him. But sometimes I tell him I have cages to clean after work, or its feeding day and he'll be like "You and your snakes, seriously.. text me whenever you are done messing with them" or something like that. I don't fight on it, I hate fighting. I really don't have a mean bone in my body.

I did not read through all 8437 posts.........put I wanted to say this:

You are such a little hottie...
You have sooooooo much going for you...
You are very outgoing....
You have a passion for things that matter to you....

These are just some of the things that I noticed about you in your posts and pics.

Now with all of that being said....someone should treat you like a totally rare beautiful flower. (Im not saying that you are fragile) I am saying that you are special and should be treated like that. Someone should love you for who YOU are....and love the things about you. My husband loves my passion for things....even if he himself doesn't have a passion for that paticular thing....it is his passion to support what I love and vice versa.

Don't ever get discourage and settle because I promise you the perfect person that meets ALL of your expectations IS out there....sometimes it just takes a LONG time to find him. Do not ever let anyone tell you that you standards are too high......they are not. Have fun with yourself...your friends...and your family. If and when you meet the right one....you will totally know it!!!


It took me until I was 34 yrs old to find him....and he was and still is everything I wanted in someone. (He met all of those expectations)!!!!!

Thank you hun, that post made me smile a bit. Waiting is the worst part though, it really is. Hah. I guess from now on I'll go back to focusing on work, and more important things. Doing what I love and not letting anyone hold me back.

I'm also late to this thread... Sheesh, 10 pages! You've got an awesome support team going on here!!

I just wanted to say that I moved in with my BF after 1 month of dating and we've been together for 5 years, and still going strong... BUT, it was under totally different circumstances. Imo, him getting all huffy over not moving in together throws a huge red flag.

Also just wanted to say that you are young, and you have the rest of your life to find the person that makes you happy. If this one isn't the one, at least you know now, right? Starting the search again isn't fun... But it's rewarding when you find that golden egg.

Yeah, I wasn't expecting that many pages actually. It suprises me how many friends I have on here. It makes me feel a lot better and everyone has helped me realize what I was trying to make myself believe wasn't true. Everyone has different situations.

Congrats that yours is working out.

[PolishPython]

[QUOTE=shescountry89;1329209] I am not afriad of being hit, It's happened.

If this is even in your head with this Clown, he needs to go. NO WOMAN should EVER have to worry about being hit EVER and if it does happen Im sure enough people on here would take care of It. Let me know Ill bring a whole Philly crew to the Chi lol

Touchy Subject with me.

Your better off without this guy.

[shescountry89]

[QUOTE=PolishPython;1329307]

I am not afriad of being hit, It's happened.

If this is even in your head with this Clown, he needs to go. NO WOMAN should EVER have to worry about being hit EVER and if it does happen Im sure enough people on here would take care of It. Let me know Ill bring a whole Philly crew to the Chi lol

Touchy Subject with me.

Your better off without this guy.

I know, and it isn't going to happen. I'll make sure of it this time.

[cinderbird]

aww im late to the party too lol.

You've been given some great advice here. And i wanted to add my two cents.

I was in a relationship with a guy i met on my college campus. He started out nice and friendly but it quickly turned sour.. I'd been looking for a fling, maybe some casual dating but nothing serious. (I'd just gotten out of a 5 year relationship and wanted some me time). Within 2 weeks of dating he asked me to marry him and that wasn't even the first red flag.. He became controlling and crazy. Wanted to know who i was with at all times, became crazy upset when i would talk and hang out with other guy friends, etc. It became too much for me and i tried to break it off. We dated for like 8 months and he made 2 years of my live a living hell. It took me YEARS to get him off my back, he'd take everything out on me, it was terrible. My self esteem suffered, my grades suffered, my art suffered, my friendships suffered, etc.

After all that (and ironically because of that ex) i met my current boyfriend. We've been dating for over 3 years, live together and are very happy together. He doesn't share my love for reptiles at all. He's actually afraid of snakes. BUT what he does do is let me keep them (in the same room as him no doubt) because he knows I love them and that they mean a lot to me. He would never ask me to get rid of them, ever. We've created some rules and set up some compromises so that we each get what we want. Ie, I can basically have whatever reptiles I want, but he doesn't want to see them unless its a gecko because he is seriously afraid of snakes. Things like that. He knows I want to breed them and usually just rolls his eyes and smiles when i tell him im getting more.

There is a healthy relationship out there for you. Based on what you wrote, i don't think this one is for you.

Good luck *hugs*

[bsash]

Well, I'm all the way out here in New Jersey, so I can't exactly meet anywhere. But like I said before, I'll be here if you just wanted to talk. I'm friendly I promise, ha ha.