Friends to lovers?

Ok, well there has been this girl I met on Myspace about 5.5 years ago right near the time I met Steph (ex-fiance).

We really had no interest in each other it was more just a friend type deal. Steph knew we are friends too.

Over the years we really just talked a lot about the relationships we were in and stuff like that.

I only met her face to face once throughout all those years and it was by accident at a bar.

Since me and Steph called it off months ago we started talking on the phone instead of just instant messenger.

I really consider her as a best friend throughout the years providing support and advice and vice versa. She helped me dearly through the heart break of the broken engagement.

So a few months ago she got out of a dead end relationship as well. So it's weird because we know what each other wants just from all the previous conversations and such.

Well she has started coming down to my neighborhood a lot and we have been hanging out but nothing more between us just friendship.

She knows that I have been talking to girls but really never said anything about it.

It took me a while to think that maybe she does have a thing for me but I didn't want to say anything or make a move just in case she wasn't thinking that and either put things in the tube or put myself in an awkward situation.

Well, we went again on Friday night and came back to my place after the bar. She lives about 20 mins away and said she is tired.

I said you can stay over and take the bed and I'll sleep out here. She looked at me and said lets both sleep in the bed. Smiled and me and then went in for the kill. haha

I'm the type of guy that doesn't rush things and like to take my time. So nothing dirty happened. PG rated night to say the least. :)

We have let each other know that we are going to take it day by day but in all reality I feel good about this one. I have even cut off communications with the others that I recently been talking to because they could not even compare to what could possibly happen in this case.

Her friends and family have been saying to her that she seems oddly happy recently walking around with that special glow. She says it's all because of what seems to be happening.

I'm just really happy and really hope it works out for the better.

The kicker is that we know what each other wants and knows what each other has been through and it could make things really special.

And for the guys.....here is a pic. :D

I couldn't ask for more.

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haaaaaaaaaaaaaa LUCKY lol. Wow she is realy beautiful just dont screw it up. Thank godd my wife is very tolerant of all my bs. Goodluck!

She's a cutie. I sort of know that situation well.

Just let things take their course, and don't rush things. What will happen will happen.

Good luck, and remember to be careful.

That's kind of how things happened with Jason and I. We met here on BP.net and started IMing and... yeah... :D

Best of luck to you! She's kind of a hottie!

She's a FOX buddy, Good luck i hope it works out for you and her!

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That's kind of how things happened with Jason and I. We met here on BP.net and started IMing and... yeah... :D

Best of luck to you! She's kind of a hottie!

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Wow thats cool!

A lot of people I know are against meeting someone online that eventually becomes a relationship.

My supervisor is married and just had a child with a female he met on myspace.

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Wow thats cool!

A lot of people I know are against meeting someone online that eventually becomes a relationship.

My supervisor is married and just had a child with a female he met on myspace.

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My Daddy and I met online. -Grins.- We've been together for ten months.

WOW congrats man, shes a very good looking girl. Sounds like your happy as well. Best of luck. :gj::salute:

She is very beautiful. I met my boyfriend online and we have been together for almost six years now. I wish you the best of luck!

Sounds interesting! My best friend met her husband on Match.com; they have been married for 3 years. It can happen!

Cool story. Hope things work out for you. :gj: OH YEAH the picture :O:tongue2::O

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Wow thats cool!

A lot of people I know are against meeting someone online that eventually becomes a relationship.

My supervisor is married and just had a child with a female he met on myspace.

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My dad met his wife online. My best friend met his wife on Myspace. A friend of mine back in the day met her now husband on Everquest (online RPG for those who don't know). I reunited with my girlfriend through Myspace. We had known each other since 7th grade and lost contact after high school and started dating after our 10 year reunion. The internet has definitely expanded the dating scene. Congratz to you man...

Good luck brother! Mel and I have been together almost a year, and I couldn't be happier. We weren't sure at first if we'd want to be more than friends, tried it out, and hit it off! Just make sure the new one is tolerant of reptiles, makes things a LOT easier.

I say go for it, if it "feels" right! :D

Best of luck to you!

I think more and more people meet online, I did myself (I have been happily married for the past 5 years to someone I met online 7 and a half years ago ;))

This is crazy.

I am head over heels about her and all this is (us together) is only 2 weeks old.

The best thing about it she tells me that she feels the same and that her co-workers, friends, and family never seen her act like this before.

:D

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This is crazy.

I am head over heels about her and all this is (us together) is only 2 weeks old.

The best thing about it she tells me that she feels the same and that her co-workers, friends, and family never seen her act like this before.

:D

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I only wish ... I only wish that I had a story like this.

She looks like a keeper, and I think that if it feels right, go for it. Don't be too hasty though

See I just get scared letting her know how much I feel for her.

Sometimes this takes a wrong turn for guys. So I think I'm going to express my feelings as it goes on.

I think a lot of women may get turned off by that many times.

Just go with the flow man and let things happen as they happen. Don't try to force anything, and don't rush the relationship. Just let it all happen naturally and you'll be golden. And just a word of advice, don't drop all your feelings on her at once. Just let things move along as they feel comfortable and make sure the feelings are developing on both sides so you don't spook her with all the mushy feelings stuff...

ive been there dude a few times its great unless someone develops problems with the idea!

Well, it's official. We are now an item.

We talked about it last night and we have decided that we a going to build from here.

I couldn't be happier.

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Well, it's official. We are now an item.

We talked about it last night and we have decided that we a going to build from here.

I couldn't be happier.

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Congratulations on things working out for you. I've made several good friendships with people I have met online and even more through them so I really hope this keeps going well. As for the situation, you both clearly seem happy and know each other well enough to keep each other happy so I wish you all the best!

Congrats and good luck! I hope you guys are as happy together as Jason and I are! :D

dude she is hot....

oh yah pretty cool deal.

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This is crazy.

I am head over heels about her and all this is (us together) is only 2 weeks old.

The best thing about it she tells me that she feels the same and that her co-workers, friends, and family never seen her act like this before.

:D

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from a girls pov.

its not crazy...its called love or infatuation. sometimes even lust.

the head over heals thing.....what starts out burning hot, then that fast runs cold...keep it together, act normal, don't change too much. remember who she fell for...aaawww.see what i mean???

the best way to stay together, is to stay friends w/ benifits. seriously. i know someone for almost ten years now, we are the best of friends, can talk about anything and everything, go anywhere and do anything, have the greatest sex, and he is my best friend. good luck with your new found "friendship".

btw..she is cute...lets see some eye candy of you! he he he!! ;0)

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from a girls pov.

its not crazy...its called love or infatuation. sometimes even lust.

the head over heals thing.....what starts out burning hot, then that fast runs cold...keep it together, act normal, don't change too much. remember who she fell for...aaawww.see what i mean???

the best way to stay together, is to stay friends w/ benifits. seriously. i know someone for almost ten years now, we are the best of friends, can talk about anything and everything, go anywhere and do anything, have the greatest sex, and he is my best friend. good luck with your new found "friendship".

btw..she is cute...lets see some eye candy of you! he he he!! ;0)

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No offense Wendy, but I don't agree with the above post not one bit.

he wants a relationship, he is putting his heart on the line for her. that's what you do when you love someone, you take the risk of handing that person your heart & soul because when you love someone you give them your all. Yeah it's scary but that's love -a scary roller coaster ride with its ups and downs.

Congrats OP, Give it your all!! I'm truly happy for you!!!

My gf and I started out as pretty darn good friends in college, started dating sophomore year, and now we've been together over 3 years!

We've already decided to stay together, heck we're even talking about what we want to do once we've retired(live on a small farm is the current plan!)

The question you need to be asking is "is it possible to go from friends to being grandparents?" lol.. I'd definitely have to say yes, and it probably happens to many more people than even I imagine. I think there are far more relationships that work because people were friends first, and the relationships where you start dating someone before you even know them are more likely to fail.

p.s. congrats! hope you're both happy!

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from a girls pov.

its not crazy...its called love or infatuation. sometimes even lust.

the head over heals thing.....what starts out burning hot, then that fast runs cold...keep it together, act normal, don't change too much. remember who she fell for...aaawww.see what i mean???

the best way to stay together, is to stay friends w/ benifits. seriously. i know someone for almost ten years now, we are the best of friends, can talk about anything and everything, go anywhere and do anything, have the greatest sex, and he is my best friend. good luck with your new found "friendship".

btw..she is cute...lets see some eye candy of you! he he he!! ;0)

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Thanks for all your comments everyone.

Here is my little 6'5 self.

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And her again.

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glad to hear you ar eboth happy, and hopefully it stays that way. In my experience the biggest mistake I ever made was dating my best friend, who is now my wife. I love her to death, but our friendship was so great and we used to have so much fun together. But now everything is serious, and not so much fun. Hopeully you both can void that though. Goodluck:)

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No offense Wendy, but I don't agree with the above post not one bit.

he wants a relationship, he is putting his heart on the line for her. that's what you do when you love someone, you take the risk of handing that person your heart & soul because when you love someone you give them your all. Yeah it's scary but that's love -a scary roller coaster ride with its ups and downs.

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who says we don't put our hearts/lives on the line? trust is one of the most important, purest issues in a relationship, that two human beings (straight or gay / friends or lovers) can have. we do give it our all, he knows all my deepest, darkest, brightest secrets, goals, dreams, ambitions, visions,good or bad and vice-versa. no holds barred, he knows everything! now thats trust. love may be a scarey roller coaster to you, with its ups and downs, but my .02 cents on that one is that "love is an ability"(stole that from,"dan in real life" thanks steve carell!). you put trust in each other, true trust, ( not things he/she might throw back at you in the future),and that person doesn't abuse that trust, trust metomorphasizes into love. and as far as the ups and downs are concerned...well thats just the roller coaster called life, like a box of chocolates, full of suprizes! (stole that one from forrest gump!) i truely believe that you know you are in love when that person brings out the best in you, and vice-versa. hey this is just an opinion, take it for what it is worth. if they are good enuf "friends", he will know exactly how to make her happy in a relationship as well and vice-versa, and it sounds like it is mutual. they might both have to work at it too, but time will tell....(filly77-and not to sound like a phsycologist here, but you seem to have some trust issues as well...imo)

aww thats a sweet story.

I've got a geekery filled love story of my own.
The nut shell version is -- my boyfriend and i met on world of warcraft. We'll be dating for two years in April.

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glad to hear you ar eboth happy, and hopefully it stays that way. In my experience the biggest mistake I ever made was dating my best friend, who is now my wife. I love her to death, but our friendship was so great and we used to have so much fun together. But now everything is serious, and not so much fun. Hopeully you both can void that though. Goodluck:)

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I gotta say, I really don't agree with this post. How could marrying your best friend be a bad thing? The fun doesn't HAVE to end when you get married. It's all in how you look at things. Obviously, marriage is more serious than friendship or dating (that's kind of the point), but that doesn't mean there can't be any fun. You just have to shift until you find the right balance. Just my opinion...

Wendy,

In fact, I do have trust issues but not in the direction you're thinking. I trust too easily but for you to jump in and start pointing fingers of be having "trust issues" you said yourself, you're not educated in that area. Besides, I wrote a whole 4 sentences, even an educated professional wouldn't make that assumption based on what little was written.

He is committing his all to her, he said he wasn't even talking to other girls anymore. Don't discourage him. OP love her and be happy :)

(this subject is dropped as far as i'm concerned)

again OP Congrats, I'm happy for you.:)

Still going strong. :D

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Well i say gratz and goodluck bud. Don't take her for granted. You have to appreciate every day you guys are together and the time you have. And thats all you can do. :D

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glad to hear you ar eboth happy, and hopefully it stays that way. In my experience the biggest mistake I ever made was dating my best friend, who is now my wife. I love her to death, but our friendship was so great and we used to have so much fun together. But now everything is serious, and not so much fun. Hopeully you both can void that though. Goodluck:)

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I agree with you brotha! I married my best friend also.

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I gotta say, I really don't agree with this post. How could marrying your best friend be a bad thing? The fun doesn't HAVE to end when you get married. It's all in how you look at things. Obviously, marriage is more serious than friendship or dating (that's kind of the point), but that doesn't mean there can't be any fun. You just have to shift until you find the right balance. Just my opinion...

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Mel, I have to say from experience, that being best friends, then dating a best friend is great!....but to marry one is both good and bad. Bad because the relationship changes (no matter how much anyone says it doesn't) when your married. Mortgages, Bills, Kids, In-laws, jobs, saving for retirement, saving for college, yadda yadda yadda, makes the fairytale come to a screeching halt!
Its good becasuse once the looks fade, kids leave and you cannot do the things you once did when younger, you have a best friend to grow old with....

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Still going strong. :D

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YES! She's a hottie...but does she love snakes?