So, are my requirements too hard/high?

This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

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Originally Posted by Neal

This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

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I wouldn't say so. Don't keep looking. When you meet someone who meets those requirements, try and start a relationship. If you look for someone who meets those requirements, you'll end up settling for someone who doesn't. Also; I don't know you, or if you're a handsome guy, but I personally try and date girls with equal attractiveness as me. For example; If you're really ugly... You probably shouldn't be trying to find a model! lol Just how I think of it. And I do think that her having a job is a good requirement to have. Shows responsibility, and maturity, on your and her part, IMHO. Hope this helps!

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Originally Posted by B.O.S Reptiles

I wouldn't say so. Don't keep looking. When you meet someone who meets those requirements, try and start a relationship. If you look for someone who meets those requirements, you'll end up settling for someone who doesn't. Also; I don't know you, or if you're a handsome guy, but I personally try and date girls with equal attractiveness as me. For example; If you're really ugly... You probably shouldn't be trying to find a model! lol Just how I think of it. And I do think that her having a job is a good requirement to have. Shows responsibility, and maturity, IMHO. Hope this helps!

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LOL. I'm not looking but it would be nice to randomly find somebody. I have to impose on my friends when I want to go to the movies and I know his wife doesn't always like the fact he offers me to attend the movies with them, lol.

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Originally Posted by Neal

LOL. I'm not looking but it would be nice to randomly find somebody. I have to impose on my friends when I want to go to the movies and I know his wife doesn't always like the fact he offers me to attend the movies with them, lol.

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Aye! That's more socializing than I do! lol Me and my co worker kind of have a thing, but it's just one of those "maybe it'll happen, maybe it won't" kind of things at the moment. It'd take a lot of time to explain the whole situation, but we both like each other and make it very obvious. However, She's not too fond of my new (big) Boa, but she's getting used to my snakes. I do wish you luck, though, buddy! Patience is key for most things in life, including a good relationship.

Most guys I know who are married, myself included really don't have too much in common like that.

Its weird.

They are out there though

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Originally Posted by Mr Oni

Most guys I know who are married, myself included really don't have too much in common like that.

Its weird.

They are out there though

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LOL, I met one girl but when she told me she heard her dog talking to her and understood him it was time to cut my losses.

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Originally Posted by Neal

LOL, I met one girl but when she told me she heard her dog talking to her and understood him it was time to cut my losses.

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Hey now, to be fair, sanity wasn't on your list of requirements... Just sayin ;)

But in all seriousness, I don't think your list is too choosy. Just keep an eye out, the right gal will come along eventually! !

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Originally Posted by MootWorm

Hey now, to be fair, sanity wasn't on your list of requirements... Just sayin ;)

But in all seriousness, I don't think your list is too choosy. Just keep an eye out, the right gal will come along eventually! !

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I hope.

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Originally Posted by Neal

I hope.

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And don't deny a girl who doesn't like reptiles for said reason! I've "converted" A LOT of people into Reptile lovers!! :)

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Originally Posted by B.O.S Reptiles

And don't deny a girl who doesn't like reptiles for said reason! I've "converted" A LOT of people into Reptile lovers!! :)

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Yea I don't mind converting but my ex when I first got into the snake hobby said to choose them or her, needless to say I have my snakes still to this day.

Just my two cents. Don't look for a girl that's into reptiles and gaming, just one that's ok with you doing both. Most girls I know don't like either:(

Personally, my wife isn't into most of my hobbies, but she respects them, and we enjoy each others company.

Good luck, hope you meet someone perfect for you.

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Originally Posted by wienkeg

Just my two cents. Don't look for a girl that's into reptiles and gaming, just one that's ok with you doing both. Most girls I know don't like either:(

Personally, my wife isn't into most of my hobbies, but she respects them, and we enjoy each others company.

Good luck, hope you meet someone perfect for you.

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Well that's what I mean, not that they have to be into it but okay with it or rather not mind that it's my hobbies.

Thanks for the luck :P

Eh personally (just my 2 cents), I wouldnt revolve your matchmaking around those hobbies at all.

I'd be looking for qualities like empathy, critical thinking, and intelligence (hawtness is a + too but not at the expense of the first 3 qualities).

Find a girl with those qualities and it really won't matter what hobbies your into, she will find things about them that she likes.

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Originally Posted by OctagonGecko729

Eh personally (just my 2 cents), I wouldnt revolve your matchmaking around those hobbies at all.

I'd be looking for qualities like empathy, critical thinking, and intelligence (hawtness is a + too but not at the expense of the first 3 qualities).

Find a girl with those qualities and it really won't matter what hobbies your into, she will find things about them that she likes.

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Well I already cleared that up that she doesn't have to be into my hobbies, just doesn't mind them. On that I will not budge because if she doesn't like either of them and wants me to ditch one then she will have to go. So I guess more or less somebody who's okay with the hobbies and anything after that is just a bonus. :P

I like reptiles
Ride horses
Ride motorcycles
I'm a gamer
Can cook

But I am married.... ;)

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Originally Posted by SlitherinSisters

I like reptiles
Ride horses
Ride motorcycles
I'm a gamer
Can cook

But I am married.... ;)

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LOL I'm not a gamer, my husband is. I have plenty of other pursuits to follow while he plays, and he doesn't ride horses.

We're both shooters too, that was non-negotiable.

The reptile bit didn't happen until after our daughter came along. The hubby was ok with it, I had to be talked into it and now I'm worse than he is.

I say set no requirements. When I met my wife she hated snake and me playing games (9 years ago). Now she probly does more work with my snakes than I do and plays games right beside me LOL As long as you can have fun with someone all the other stuff seems to fall into place.

You've listed interests not quality's of a person. My wife wants nothing to do with the snakes, my guns, or fast cars. However we do have other things in common that give us a common ground to talk and support each other in. Saying that you want a girl who likes reptiles, gaming, and is attractive to you..but attractive to you is a braud term.

I'm sure you can find a girl that likes reptiles at a reptile expo.

I happen to be very into PC gaming and reptiles, but I know other girls who are the same way and all have very different personalities. Look for qualities you like in a person and go from there. Don't make it about just a list of hobbies. You might have those in common but be totally opposed in other ways.

As a few previous posters have suggested, as long as she supports your hobbies, that's what matters. When my husband and I met, we had fairly different interests. But now, our idea of date time is an afternoon spent shooting and an evening spent gaming, lol. And now that I'm head over heels for my Ball Python, he's looking into getting a snake of some kind soon as well. Don't worry, she'll come along and be totally rad. :D

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Originally Posted by bcr229

LOL I'm not a gamer, my husband is. I have plenty of other pursuits to follow while he plays, and he doesn't ride horses.

We're both shooters too, that was non-negotiable.

The reptile bit didn't happen until after our daughter came along. The hubby was ok with it, I had to be talked into it and now I'm worse than he is.

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YAY for gamers and gunners!! :D

Ive got a snake lover and gunner on my hands but not a gamer...lol

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Originally Posted by OsirisRa32

YAY for gamers and gunners!! :D

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Hey saw your post and it made me smile. There are definitely girls out there who can meet said requirements, but keep in mind that even if they don't love something at first it doesn't mean they cant find a reason to love it.

Finding someone worth keeping isn't about finding someone who's flawless, or just 'perfectly made for you', but loving them warts and all.

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Hey saw your post and it made me smile. There are definitely girls out there who can meet said requirements, but keep in mind that even if they don't love something at first it doesn't mean they cant find a reason to love it.

Finding someone worth keeping isn't about finding someone who's flawless, or just 'perfectly made for you', but loving them warts and all.

:)

Craig and I have been together for 13 years and we pretty much hate all of the same stuff...

I HATE fish, Im actually scared of them :oops: And he has a 220 gallon in our bedroom!
He hates birds, I have a house full..
Hes a gamer, if it were up to me Id throw out all of the games, etc in this house.
The list goes on and on ahaha....but we don't stop each other from doing what we love.

Okay, he did tell me no more birds :(

You'll find her when you least expect her ;)

I agree with Freakie Frog. Find someone you connect with and have life goals/lifestyles that mesh. Not only that but you have to be able to talk to them and hang out with them like they're your best friend (and I think they should eventually be). My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We are totally opposite on a lot of our interests and likes but our life goals, plans, and lifestyles are similar. We don't enjoy all the same hobbies (I think fishkeeping might be the only one we share and I got him into that), but we both respect them and share in each others enthusiasm and enjoyments. He's not into snakes. He says they weird him out but he knows full well I will have a room for them when we get a house together, and he's fine with that.

Find someone that you get along with and like spending time with as a friend, but also find attractive and that's a good place to start. Specifying the hobbies they like isn't a good setup for success.

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Originally Posted by Neal

This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

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I wouldn't say so - for me I'd like it if we shared some common interests. Reptiles is an obvious must but she doesn't have to like fishing, and going to the gym. Or any of the other stuff I like but she does have to be accepting of the fact that I do like those things and they will take up a portion of my time. Attractiveness is a must but what is attractive? I find women attractive that a lot of other people don't and vica verca. I like the quirky, nerdy look - never been one for model grade "beauty." But I am realistic about it, I am not model grade good looking so it wouldn't make sense for me to expect that for myself - although I have been very lucky in the past with great looking women with good personalities.

My point is, standards are standards and if everyone here told you that your standards are too high, it wouldn't change a thing. We all know what we are looking for in a partner and nobody should have to settle. Settling is unfair to everyone involved. But that doesn't make you shallow either - you can't expect a whole package because it is rare. There are people out there that meet maybe 75% of my standards that I would date because I know to focus on the things that attract me to them. If you focus on the ways people don't meet up to your standards than you will never find what you're looking for. Just my experience.

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Originally Posted by Neal

This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

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I wouldn't say so - for me I'd like it if we shared some common interests. Reptiles is an obvious must but she doesn't have to like fishing, and going to the gym. Or any of the other stuff I like but she does have to be accepting of the fact that I do like those things and they will take up a portion of my time. Attractiveness is a must but what is attractive? I find women attractive that a lot of other people don't and vica verca. I like the quirky, nerdy look - never been one for model grade "beauty." But I am realistic about it, I am not model grade good looking so it wouldn't make sense for me to expect that for myself - although I have been very lucky in the past with great looking women with good personalities.

My point is, standards are standards and if everyone here told you that your standards are too high, it wouldn't change a thing. We all know what we are looking for in a partner and nobody should have to settle. Settling is unfair to everyone involved. But that doesn't make you shallow either - you can't expect a whole package because it is rare. There are people out there that meet maybe 75% of my standards that I would date because I know to focus on the things that attract me to them. If you focus on the ways people don't meet up to your standards than you will never find what you're looking for. Just my experience.

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Originally Posted by Neal

This is the way I figure, I'd like to find a girl who enjoys: Reptiles(specifically snakes but any additional is a plus) and computer games or console games, it really doesn't matter because gaming is gaming. The other requirement is that she have a job. That's not too much to ask for right? I'm not asking her to be rich or a model, though attractive is a must because if you're not attracted to somebody then chances are it won't work.

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I wouldn't say so - for me I'd like it if we shared some common interests. Reptiles is an obvious must but she doesn't have to like fishing, and going to the gym. Or any of the other stuff I like but she does have to be accepting of the fact that I do like those things and they will take up a portion of my time. Attractiveness is a must but what is attractive? I find women attractive that a lot of other people don't and vica verca. I like the quirky, nerdy look - never been one for model grade "beauty." But I am realistic about it, I am not model grade good looking so it wouldn't make sense for me to expect that for myself - although I have been very lucky in the past with great looking women with good personalities.

My point is, standards are standards and if everyone here told you that your standards are too high, it wouldn't change a thing. We all know what we are looking for in a partner and nobody should have to settle. Settling is unfair to everyone involved. But that doesn't make you shallow either - you can't expect a whole package because it is rare. There are people out there that meet maybe 75% of my standards that I would date because I know to focus on the things that attract me to them. If you focus on the ways people don't meet up to your standards than you will never find what you're looking for. Just my experience.

I don't think you are asking for too much, you just know what you like! Like others have said... you usually find somebody when you are not looking or even thinking about it.

Annnnnnnnnd just because I am am nosy... what kind of games do you play? :banana:

Like other posters have said, finding someone who supports your hobbies will open your chances greatly. My boyfriend isn't big into reptiles, but I can blab to him day in and day out about my snakes. And I could watch him play video games all day :) I personally prefer single-player rpgs, but he plays a much larger variety.

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I don't think you are asking for too much, you just know what you like! Like others have said... you usually find somebody when you are not looking or even thinking about it.

Annnnnnnnnd just because I am am nosy... what kind of games do you play? :banana:

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I play battlefield 3 on the PC. I prefer realistic games but I've played a broad genre of games. I like zombie games too, just anything that has good graphics really. I mostly play bf3 though, at least until bf4 comes out then all my friends leave and the game goes dead. Then it'll probably be Titanfall, maybe.

I just have no intentions on getting rid of my snakes ever, so that's something that is non-negotiable, however I can spend less time gaming if I found something else to occupy my time but that would come with due time.

I enjoy doing a ton of other things and I'm open to somebody not liking the stuff I like, just as long as they don't try to tell me to get rid of it or stop doing it, that's what I should of originally stated as I worded it a bit wrong.

Yea, i think your requirements are too specific. Don't look for a chick into the same stuff as you, just look for a chick that supports your interests.

For example...
I don't like horses at all. I think they're awful creatures. But if found a chick i liked who was willing to put up with my quirks and support my interests, you can bet your ass i'd be in the backyard building a barn of biblical proportions hahaha ;)

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Originally Posted by liv

I'm sure you can find a girl that likes reptiles at a reptile expo.

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I've been using craigslist's "missed connections" section. Is that a good place to look for love too??

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

Yea, i think your requirements are too specific. Don't look for a chick into the same stuff as you, just look for a chick that supports your interests.

For example...
I don't like horses at all. I think they're awful creatures. But if found a chick i liked who was willing to put up with my quirks and support my interests, you can bet your ass i'd be in the backyard building a barn of biblical proportions hahaha ;)

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Mike if you'd read the whole thread you'd see where I was more specific with what I meant :P, read read read :P

I think horses look confused, on a side note.

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I've been using craigslist's "missed connections" section. Is that a good place to look for love too??

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Yea, searching for a girl off craigslist can only lead to disaster, plus most are probably bots since when I post stuff for sale that's all that ever emails me or texts me.

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I've been using craigslist's "missed connections" section. Is that a good place to look for love too??

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Great place to find love, herpes and a new bike!

If my criteria were about video games, movies or being a reptile lover or animal lover in general, I would be single right now.

My criteria were to find someone honest, kind and loving, someone that would share values similar to mine.

My husband does not care about video games or snakes, just like I do not care about some of his interest, however because we love each other even if we might not understand each others passion or interest we support one another.

I'll say what's been said, don't look you, won't find them, it'll happen when you least expect it. My fiancee and I were best friends before we started dating, got to a point we realized we did everything together and made each other happy and then it was like "why not?". I find the people that stumble into each other make the best couples. It's been 5 1/2 years, lots of scaly kids we both love, lots of game nights we share, as well as MTG and anime. If I had put requirements on someone I might not even noticed the guy who met my requirements and those I didn't even know existed.

There were times I thought I'd always be single, all my friends we going through S. Os like crazy, always trying to find that perfect one. Our relationship is more trust worthy, fun and happy then any of my friend have or have had.

She'll come along and you won't even remember there was a time you were looking for something else.

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I'll say what's been said, don't look you, won't find them, it'll happen when you least expect it. My fiancee and I were best friends before we started dating, got to a point we realized we did everything together and made each other happy and then it was like "why not?". I find the people that stumble into each other make the best couples. It's been 5 1/2 years, lots of scaly kids we both love, lots of game nights we share, as well as MTG and anime. If I had put requirements on someone I might not even noticed the guy who met my requirements and those I didn't even know existed.

There were times I thought I'd always be single, all my friends we going through S. Os like crazy, always trying to find that perfect one. Our relationship is more trust worthy, fun and happy then any of my friend have or have had.

She'll come along and you won't even remember there was a time you were looking for something else.

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I'm not really looking, but it would be nice to happen. Hell I couldn't possibly be looking because I don't go anywhere :P

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Originally Posted by Deborah

If my criteria were about video games, movies or being a reptile lover or animal lover in general, I would be single right now.

My criteria were to find someone honest, kind and loving, someone that would share values similar to mine.

My husband does not care about video games or snakes, just like I do not care about some of his interest, however because we love each other even if we might not understand each others passion or interest we support one another.

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This, to a tee. Finding someone with similar values is far more essential than finding someone with common interests. What you value, what you believe, some of the core things that make up who you are will have a far greater impact on a long-term relationship than whether or not you both like reptiles or play video games.

My husband and I DO have reptiles in common, but when we met we were at completely different places in life & the last thing either of us was looking for was a relationship. The snakes gave us a common interest from which our friendship grew, and we found out we had a LOT more in common than just snakes. Our core values, our goals, what we wanted out of life, those things were far greater and far more binding. Getting to know one another without the motive or pretense of seeking a relationship allowed us to develop an amazing friendship where we could talk about anything and everything, and ultimately trust one another. A solid friendship with no surprises makes an excellent foundation for something long-term.

Now we also have separate interests in addition to our common ones - my dog shows & his catfish tournaments. We each make it a point to attend the other's events whenever possible as a way to show support and spend time together. Not necessarily because we love the hobby (although I do enjoy fishing a smidge more than he enjoys dog shows ;) ), but because we love each other and want to bear witness to one another's lives.

I also totally agree with the above recommendation of not seeking out a relationship at all. What you find when you aren't looking may surprise you. ;)

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This, to a tee. Finding someone with similar values is far more essential than finding someone with common interests. What you value, what you believe, some of the core things that make up who you are will have a far greater impact on a long-term relationship than whether or not you both like reptiles or play video games.

My husband and I DO have reptiles in common, but when we met we were at completely different places in life & the last thing either of us was looking for was a relationship. The snakes gave us a common interest from which our friendship grew, and we found out we had a LOT more in common than just snakes. Our core values, our goals, what we wanted out of life, those things were far greater and far more binding. Getting to know one another without the motive or pretense of seeking a relationship allowed us to develop an amazing friendship where we could talk about anything and everything, and ultimately trust one another. A solid friendship with no surprises makes an excellent foundation for something long-term.

Now we also have separate interests in addition to our common ones - my dog shows & his catfish tournaments. We each make it a point to attend the other's events whenever possible as a way to show support and spend time together. Not necessarily because we love the hobby (although I do enjoy fishing a smidge more than he enjoys dog shows ;) ), but because we love each other and want to bear witness to one another's lives.

I also totally agree with the above recommendation of not seeking out a relationship at all. What you find when you aren't looking may surprise you. ;)

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Well of course the honesty and other traits are going to be a part, that's a given :P

Neal - as far as not looking, that's a good thing. When you start worrying too much about defining what you want, you'll overwrite the part about what actually fits with you. Most people have NO idea what they want but they think they do. Trying to define someone by personality traits is very hard. People have poor self awareness and even worse abilities to identify what they want in a lover. As far as not going anywhere or doing anything, that's not such a good thing. I do however think that the internet is a great place to find someone if you're in that boat.

My girlfriend is my best friend. The personality compatibility/traits and shared interests are just things that lead to the depth of friendship. We started out as acquaintances and then became friends, then best friends, then started dating. That process of building the relationship is important - a lot of people try to 'dive in' or experience 'love at first sight' - those people experience a rocky road before finding someone that's right for them. In that process, I think a lot of people damage their relationship building mechanisms. When I say relationship building mechanisms, I mean think back to when you were a little kid and made a buddy at school... how did you go about identifying someone to play with? You didn't, you just exposed yourself to other people through the activities and hobbies you like and the ones who had chemistry with you became your friends. When I was little I didn't have expectations, I just spent time with the people that enjoyed life in the same way as me. If my girlfriend didn't like snakes, gaming, hiking, or the things I like, would we have ended up becoming best friends? Probably not.

You say you don't really do much. Go to an online site and build a profile. Say you are looking for someone to do things with you that you like to do. List out the things you like to do, not the things you think you'd like to do. Look for a FRIEND. If things line up right, they'll become a lover.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 years. I am not into all of his hobbies and he is not into some of mine either. Finding that someone special will happen when you least expect it. It is not all about physical attraction either. I find intelligence, compassion, and a sense of humor very sexy in a man. I love my boyfriend and he loves me and we respect each other. He is not fond of snakes and I am not fond of his boat but we compromise and it works out great. So, don't go looking so long and hard for the "right" girl, because she will appear in your life when you least expect it.

If you were looking for a guy with those requirements, then it'd be pretty easy, but girls like that are fewer and farther between. They do exist though, and are typically looking for guys who share in their interests, so just keep going to expos and stuff and you may meet one. You're more likely to find a girl that is tolerant of snakes, than into them though, or an animal lover who is more into fuzzy things but has nothing against snakes.

My husband isn't into herps at all, he's kind of afraid of them...not like they might bite, but he says he's scared to hurt them (maybe that's just an excuse lol). He did hold my BP last night for the first time though (I got her a month ago), so maybe he's coming around.

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Yea I don't mind converting but my ex when I first got into the snake hobby said to choose them or her, needless to say I have my snakes still to this day.

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I could see this being a problem if you ever decide to get any very large breed snakes that might pose a perceived risk to children. I don't know how old you are, but if you become serious with someone (even if she is into snakes) and she starts thinking along the lines of starting a family, you very well may get an ultimatum.

I hate to use a cliche, but relationships really are about compromise. I had never once even thought about buying a gun, but hubby likes them and it makes shopping for presents really easy (you can never have too many he says :rolleyes:). And despite my initial aversion to firearms, I love antiques, so he got me on board with a WWI Enfield (I fired it once, it hurt, so I just look at it and admire the patina on the stock), and now I love trap shooting. He'd never had dogs before, and despite claiming they're expensive and obnoxious, when he's away he talks to "his little boy" on Skype (and yes the dog sits and stares back at him, super cute).

The point is this, if you really care for someone you want them to be happy, even when you don't understand why certain things work for them. And if someone really cares for you, they'll want you to be happy too. So maybe your points are too specific at this point in time, but a girl who cares for you will make an effort to understand your hobbies, and if your lucky she'll eventually like them too.

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If you were looking for a guy with those requirements, then it'd be pretty easy, but girls like that are fewer and farther between. They do exist though, and are typically looking for guys who share in their interests, so just keep going to expos and stuff and you may meet one. You're more likely to find a girl that is tolerant of snakes, than into them though, or an animal lover who is more into fuzzy things but has nothing against snakes.

My husband isn't into herps at all, he's kind of afraid of them...not like they might bite, but he says he's scared to hurt them (maybe that's just an excuse lol). He did hold my BP last night for the first time though (I got her a month ago), so maybe he's coming around.





I could see this being a problem if you ever decide to get any very large breed snakes that might pose a perceived risk to children. I don't know how old you are, but if you become serious with someone (even if she is into snakes) and she starts thinking along the lines of starting a family, you very well may get an ultimatum.

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I keep Rufous Beaked and Ball Pythons. The RB are rear fanged venomous but are probably among the most docile snakes. Everybody I know that has them says they've never attempted to bite or strike out of aggression.

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Originally Posted by Badgemash

I hate to use a cliche, but relationships really are about compromise. I had never once even thought about buying a gun, but hubby likes them and it makes shopping for presents really easy (you can never have too many he says :rolleyes:). And despite my initial aversion to firearms, I love antiques, so he got me on board with a WWI Enfield (I fired it once, it hurt, so I just look at it and admire the patina on the stock), and now I love trap shooting. He'd never had dogs before, and despite claiming they're expensive and obnoxious, when he's away he talks to "his little boy" on Skype (and yes the dog sits and stares back at him, super cute).

The point is this, if you really care for someone you want them to be happy, even when you don't understand why certain things work for them. And if someone really cares for you, they'll want you to be happy too. So maybe your points are too specific at this point in time, but a girl who cares for you will make an effort to understand your hobbies, and if your lucky she'll eventually like them too.

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Yea, somethings can be negotiated, but those two things aren't. The gaming maybe could be but something would have to seriously replace my time, but the snakes aren't going anywhere period, that will not happen. I agree that changes for the better are always good, but getting rid of snakes isn't changing for the better.

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

Yea, i think your requirements are too specific. Don't look for a chick into the same stuff as you, just look for a chick that supports your interests.

For example...
I don't like horses at all. I think they're awful creatures. But if found a chick i liked who was willing to put up with my quirks and support my interests, you can bet your ass i'd be in the backyard building a barn of biblical proportions hahaha ;)

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As a fellow horse addict and owner my thought on this is "Good man." Just realize horses are just as expensive as buying snakes all the time. :p especially if she likes to show. ;)

That's actually a pretty tame list. I've seen much longer and more rigid lists for potentials spouses. Actually I think that's not enough personally.

My only input is that you really sit down and think about what your must haves are. And when you do, don't compromise. Don't settle.

I remember my list was something like:

• Must be a Christian
• Must be non-smoker
• Must not be a drinker
• Must want children
• Must be in reasonable age range
• Must not be morbidly obese or anorexic
• Must enjoy at least some of the same movies. TV shows, music ect.

Then I had a "Nice TO Haves" list which was too long to remember. :)

I know people that settled. They are all divorced.

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Originally Posted by Marrissa

As a fellow horse addict and owner my thought on this is "Good man." Just realize horses are just as expensive as buying snakes all the time. :p especially if she likes to show. ;)

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Thats why separate hobbies are good. She can be on the long ass wait list for a clydesdale while i'm on the wait list for a GHI Clown Hypo Fire Cinny... Hehehe ;)

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Originally Posted by MasonC2K

That's actually a pretty tame list. I've seen much longer and more rigid lists for potentials spouses. Actually I think that's not enough personally.

My only input is that you really sit down and think about what your must haves are. And when you do, don't compromise. Don't settle.

I remember my list was something like:

• Must be a Christian
• Must be non-smoker
• Must not be a drinker
• Must want children
• Must be in reasonable age range
• Must not be morbidly obese or anorexic
• Must enjoy at least some of the same movies. TV shows, music ect.

Then I had a "Nice TO Haves" list which was too long to remember. :)

I know people that settled. They are all divorced.

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Who wouldn't want mason's babies??? :D

I agree with a lot of the posts here. I especially like Masonc2k's list and was looking for similar things myself when I happened to meet my husband.

I'd just like to echo that having all the same interests is not integral... I think looking at the person's lifestyle and personality is much more important. i.e....what if you find a chick that likes snakes, but loves to bar hop / party all the time and you're more of a book and a comfy chair type... or she's very social and wants people over all the time and you don't. Some things can be compromised on, but some things like general personality won't change.

I used to be BIG into fish and freshwater aquaria when I was in college. There are not many women that are into fish, so I was definitely in the minority. Looking back, I'm glad I didn't just seek out another fishgeek who might not have been compatible with me in other ways.

My husband wasn't into any form of pets when we met, but now loves my cat and really enjoys the snakes. He'll never be super into them (as in having lots of racks, breeding, etc.), but that's an area we'll have to compromise on.

However, I will say that I was upfront with him and told him I had a cat and geckos when we met...If he had issues with either at the beginning it might not have worked out.

Good luck!
Artgecko

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Originally Posted by MasonC2K

That's actually a pretty tame list. I've seen much longer and more rigid lists for potentials spouses. Actually I think that's not enough personally.

My only input is that you really sit down and think about what your must haves are. And when you do, don't compromise. Don't settle.

I remember my list was something like:

• Must be a Christian
• Must be non-smoker
• Must not be a drinker
• Must want children
• Must be in reasonable age range
• Must not be morbidly obese or anorexic
• Must enjoy at least some of the same movies. TV shows, music ect.

Then I had a "Nice TO Haves" list which was too long to remember. :)

I know people that settled. They are all divorced.

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Hey I can make a list like that, lol. Lets see....

-Prefer non-smoker but it's okay as long as they don't try to smoke in the same vehicle or smoke in the house.
-I don't mind drinking just as long as it's not like every single day and I mean getting hammered or going out partying. I'm not the party type because I don't like being around drunk people because of the way they act.
-I'd like to have at least one child
-Yea I don't want somebody 7 years older than me, so while I'm 28, say 33ish is my max.
-Morbidly obese or anorexic comes with being attractive to me. Though I don't mind a tattoo'd girl :P
-Liking same movies is nice, but at least must be able to sit and watch a movie or so and enjoy something similar.
-I don't care about religion as long as they don't push it on me.

I mean I have other specifics but those can be worked out, the main thing to me is somebody that I have something in common with because I'd rather my other person to be my best friend as well as my girlfriend/fiancé/lover/wife whatever title comes first.