Re: Completely devastated
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evan385
I am the only reason that she is alive today!
WOW. :O Keep it up kid. Your really proving your point now....
Re: Completely devastated
Evan, the main concern that adults have when they see "young love" is that the participants of that love may not be mature enough to comprehend a number of realities. CAN young people be in love? Yes, I believe they can. Can such a love blossom into a true, life-long commitment that lasts over the decades of our lives? Yes, it can. BUT, it's extraordinarily rare for it to do so.
I wouldn't dream to presume if the two of you will last into adulthood and beyond, but I DO know the odds are severely against it...for many more reasons than just the ages you've listed.
Genuine commitment...the sort that takes you through ANYthing...even the loss of the "feelings" that are so potent right now...takes a great deal of maturity. You haven't exactly inspired confidence in your audience that you have that kind of maturity.
Fortunately for you, it doesn't really matter what anyone here thinks or says. Your reality is your reality, no matter what we say. But some of us TRY to say a few things that we HOPE might help you to think with a little more clarity and introspection. Only when you're willing to face the realities of the world, will you be able to overcome them.
Re: Completely devastated
So i've been thinking. In a last ditch effort to see if I can get her mother to like me i'm just gonna back off until she turns eighteen. Also I don't need any unnecessary trouble. If she still wants to be with me when she turns eighteen then it's meant to be and it will be.
Re: Completely devastated
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Originally Posted by
evan385
So i've been thinking. In a last ditch effort to see if I can get her mom to like me i'm just gonna back off until she turns eighteen. Also I don't need any unnecessary trouble. If she still wants to be with me when she turns eighteen then it's meant to be and it will be.
How about this Evan:
If her mom is really that abusive, the best thing you can do for her is to encourage her to report that abuse.
Becoming friends with a person who allegedly abuses her isn't going to help her one bit. Helping to stop the abuse or getting her to counselor who can give her tools to deal with her upbringing and her suicide talk is the best thing you can do for her.
Re: Completely devastated
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Mike Cavanaugh
WOW. :O Keep it up kid. Your really proving your point now....
I'm sorry Mike, I tend to get immature when I am angry and frustrated. I respect your opinion and hope that we can speak on better terms later on. I realize that I need to grow up and start acting my age, and not let things bother me so much. Thank you.
Re: Completely devastated
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Skiploder
How about this Evan:
If her mom is really that abusive, the best thing you can do for her is to encourage her to report that abuse.
Becoming friends with a person who allegedly abuses her isn't going to help her one bit. Helping to stop the abuse or getting her to counselor who can give her tools to deal with her upbringing and her suicide talk is the best thing you can do for her.
She's had other boyfriends in the past and she's actually from what she told me held a knife to her throat and threatened to kill her if the boyfriend came to see her. I would hope that it will stop and they can move on. I don't want her to hate her mother, I want them to have a good healthy relationship and I want her to like me. But I realize that this will probably never happen and that she does need to report it. Thank you. I am not a pedophile, I honestly thought she was my age when we met. I hope we can speak on better terms later on and I am truly sorry for my harsh words toward you.
Re: Completely devastated
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evan385
I am not a pedophile, I honestly thought she was my age when we met.
But when you find out how old she is, that's when you call it quits. That what an adult would do.
I met this amazing guy (well, he was a manager at a store I worked at - but at a different location, so we didn't know anything about each other).
We both thought we were closer in age.
I was 19 and he turned out to be 29. Even though it wasn't illegal, when we found out about each other's ages, we decided that it wasn't going to work out because we weren't on the same level.
