i hate the people who live down the street..

[Ladydragon]

so sorry you are going through all this crap. firstly, let me give you props for not retaliating. People like this "Lori" person do not understand reasoning nor do they obey laws, they feel justified that they were wronged and are above the law and if you react back to them they feel vindicated in their own stupid actions.

As for hiring a lawyer I highly recommend it. If you feel that getting a lawyer is costly, here is a link to a website for legal insurance. http://www.prepaidlegal.com/. Basically you pay a monthly fee (depends on the state you live in) and you have lawyers on retainer. Check out the site, give them a call and ask what is the best package, recourse of action for you. It cannot hurt. And as was adviced, each time they harass you, whether verbally or trespass on your property call the cops. Eventually they will get tired of you calling and start to do something. Also, call your local news station. I'm sure all news stations have some kind of "Shame on you" segment. See what public attention might do to stop her. Bring to the publics attention that there has been a restraining order that was violated and ignored by a judge (yes name the judge). I've been through a restraining order against my stepfather and it was not pretty.

Stay safe and avoid this nut case as much as possible. Hopefully it will be resolved before something serious happens. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[filly77]

so sorry you are going through all this crap. firstly, let me give you props for not retaliating. People like this "Lori" person do not understand reasoning nor do they obey laws, they feel justified that they were wronged and are above the law and if you react back to them they feel vindicated in their own stupid actions.

As for hiring a lawyer I highly recommend it. If you feel that getting a lawyer is costly, here is a link to a website for legal insurance. http://www.prepaidlegal.com/. Basically you pay a monthly fee (depends on the state you live in) and you have lawyers on retainer. Check out the site, give them a call and ask what is the best package, recourse of action for you. It cannot hurt. And as was adviced, each time they harass you, whether verbally or trespass on your property call the cops. Eventually they will get tired of you calling and start to do something. Also, call your local news station. I'm sure all news stations have some kind of "Shame on you" segment. See what public attention might do to stop her. Bring to the publics attention that there has been a restraining order that was violated and ignored by a judge (yes name the judge). I've been through a restraining order against my stepfather and it was not pretty.

Stay safe and avoid this nut case as much as possible. Hopefully it will be resolved before something serious happens. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

thank you very much for the info you gave me. we're in the process of lookin around for a lawyer and if we cant afford any we will look into the link you provided.

also, an update, we went to go get a used tire yesterday, the guy looked at it and said the spot i was pointing to might of been from a sharp rock as it wasn't leaking air from there. it was the seam, he said it was from just sitting in the driveway, he re-did the seal and replaces the valve thingie. i feel bad assuming the daughter did it, but after everything thats happened, why wouldn't we jump to that conclusion! it still doesn't explain WHY she was in our driveway on that side of the car and in our driveway YET again!

[fishmommy]

you don't live in the Thetford area, do you?

[filly77]

I actually had to google that town, as I've never heard of it. Look to be about 2 hours give or take north of me. why do you ask?

[fishmommy]

I just know of a similar situation in Thetford....wondered if it was the same two girls you were talking about I live somewhat near Thetford.

[filly77]

ahhh gotcha.. maybe it's in the water here? LOL

[Ginevive]

Wow; this sounds insane. Too bad they don't make invisible electric fence! It is creepy that a 15 year old girl is hanging around your house.. doesn't she have a social life? lol.
I think that cameras are a great idea. My husband ordered some out of a catalog for us, and they were very inexpensive; I am pretty sure, around $50. I will ask him later; maybe they have a website. Heh.. I would be inclined to whip out my cell phone and photograph them following behind in the car.. or.. (and this isn't what I recommend) slam on my brakes while they followed. But that's just me

[filly77]

well we just got back from the police station. earlier today "lori" acted as though she was going to run into our car with hers as my fiance was sitting at a red light.

the police at least took this one more serious than the incident other night (ill explain in a min) the cop had my fiance fill out a report. The cop said he doesn't know if what she did violated the no contact order or not but he's going to send it to the states attorneys office, he's been to our house over this before. he said he remembered us from over the summer and said he was shocked the states attorney didn't do anything about it then. he said im not dismissing this or downplaying it, Im just talking honestly "what the states attorney will do is look it over and say, can we win this? if they can, they will follow through on it. if not, they dont even bother because they have so many cases and so little time during the week, they take on what they feel is the more important cases."

I called a lawyer, a friend of my aunts. he said he doesn't get involved in these types of cases as they are as he worded it "they are like quicksand.. they never end" (gee thanks for giving me hope LOL)

we havent been to court yet as we want to get all the paperwork from all the times we've called the cops before we go into the court to apply for a reconsideration on a real restraining order. I wish we coulda called the cops EVERY TIME something happened. But they actually get annoyed and sometimes rude on the phone when you call too much so a lot of times we let things go. And as of about a week & a 1/2 ago we started keeping a log of events.

i looked at their myspaces the other day, looks like they might be having problems.. as lori's song on her page is Should've said no taylor swift. And "beckys" is basically about her being able to find another lover.

we wondered why all of a sudden things were starting back up because for a couple months, things were fine, (other than lori shooting dirty looks at us in passing-but thats nothing) so it makes sense to us now...

anyway.. I dont know how long it will take to find out what the states attorney will do about it, once we know I will give another update.

~M


oh and as for the incident the other night... my fiance & my mom wanted McD's it was 12:30am. so they went for a late night run to McD's but the trailblazer REALLY needed gas (she loves her gas lol). as my fiance was leaving our street, lori was turning onto our street, headed home. next thing my fiance knows, lori was right behind her, all up on her bumper. Lori followed them 1/2 way across our town. As lori saw my fiance was pulling into a gas station, lori went to the gas station right across the street from that one. Parked her car and then stared at them the whole time. After she got gas, they went thru the drive thru, which the driveway for McD's is connected to the gas station lori was in. Lori had herself a nice view to stair at them then, she glared at my mother & fiance the whole time they were at the drive thru. Lori didnt get gas, she didnt go into the store or even get out of her car at all, she was just being a nutty stalker! Called the cops that night, nothing was done. The cops didn't write out a report at all for that one.

[Evans]

A good couple years ago, my mother was getting dirty looks, verbul abuse and threats from a male neighbour, whos in his 30s, a couple houses down from me (the fencing out front isn't very high so you can see start over here). The first couple of times, she told me don't do anything you'll make it worse. So I agreed, didn't do anything.
One day, as my mother and I was getting in the car going to the pet store to buy some dog food and fish flakes. The man was talking out the trash, he saw us, started to verbally shout abuse at us. That moment, I flipped, completly lost it. I got out of the car, started to walk down the street the man saw went inside his house, I went to his front door banging as hard as I could for about 5mins when all he did was pop his head out the front window and told me to "innapropriate language removed by staff".

I went out to his truck and picked up a metal poll, this guy was some sort of builder, I swung the poll smashing his couple year old Land Rover. He instantly came running out of his house. I throw the poll away, pinned him to the wall and told him to stop with his abuse, all he did was spit in my face. So I put him in hospital with a broken nose, couple bruised ribs and a broken right arm. He hasn't even dared to look down towards my house now.

But this got me in alot of trouble. Keep doing what your doing, get a lawyer. Don't retaliate.

[filly77]

A good couple years ago, my mother was getting dirty looks, verbul abuse and threats from a male neighbour, whos in his 30s, a couple houses down from me (the fencing out front isn't very high so you can see start over here). The first couple of times, she told me don't do anything you'll make it worse. So I agreed, didn't do anything.
One day, as my mother and I was getting in the car going to the pet store to buy some dog food and fish flakes. The man was talking out the trash, he saw us, started to verbally shout abuse at us. That moment, I flipped, completly lost it. I got out of the car, started to walk down the street the man saw went inside his house, I went to his front door banging as hard as I could for about 5mins when all he did was pop his head out the front window and told me to "innapropriate language removed by staff".

I went out to his truck and picked up a metal poll, this guy was some sort of builder, I swung the poll smashing his couple year old Land Rover. He instantly came running out of his house. I throw the poll away, pinned him to the wall and told him to stop with his abuse, all he did was spit in my face. So I put him in hospital with a broken nose, couple bruised ribs and a broken right arm. He hasn't even dared to look down towards my house now.

But this got me in alot of trouble. Keep doing what your doing, get a lawyer. Don't retaliate.

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No way would I retaliate, as I refuse to let the system work against me, it's all too common, where the good guy (or in my case woman) is the one to get in trouble.. but it's not like i haven't thought about it...