Ladies and Gentlemen who are married...

[HALEN16]

Did you, Ladies, take your husbands last name?

If you did, why, and if you didn't, why not?

Gentlemen... how important is/was it to you that your significant other takes your last name?

The woman has to take my last name, or i would tell her to BEAT IT!
oh wait she did

[NickMyers03]

She took My last name...

her last name was Bratz and everyone kept compairing her to the dolls so its a good thing she has mine now.

its tradition and custom so thats why we did it. one of our family friends just got married for the second time and she kept her org name as her middle name and took his last name as hers

[Stewart_Reptiles]

Did you, Ladies, take your husbands last name?

If you did, why, and if you didn't, why not?

Gentlemen... how important is/was it to you that your significant other takes your last name?

I did......makes it easier for everybody............ my name cannot be pronounced by anyone in this country

On the serious side while I thought I would never get married (took an amazing guy to convince me and to put up with me ) I did and when I did, it is something that just made sense, and I am VERY proud to have my hubby's name.

[Seneschal]

Well, I'm not married and have no intention of marrying anytime soon, but here goes...

I have absolutely no intention of changing my name. If he isn't secure enough with himself, me, and my feelings for him to think that I love him regardless of what my name is, or whether or not I wear a ring, or me if he doesn't wear a ring or change his name, then clearly we aren't meant to get married, are we?

To be quite honest my loyalty lies with my family. I love all of my family dearly and kind of feel that it's disrespectful to just throw away my name so lightly. Not that I wouldn't be loyal to someone I married, but it's entirely possible (divorce rates being what they are) that the marriage wouldn't last.

Besides, isn't it entirely possible to enjoy a fulfilling, complete and happy marriage without sharing surnames?

[Laooda]

The electrician that works for my husband is named Wild Rice . . . No kidding.

No, no... I believe you! He's probably related to my hub one way or another! Just PROMISE that if we ever all meet at a show or something, you don't tell him... cause I assured him that NO ONE would ever name their child Wild Rice...

[Epona142]

If we ever had kids, (which we will not.), but IF it was possible, they would have his last name.

As for rings, he doesn't wear one, as he has swollen knuckles due to a medical issue, and I don't wear one, cause I hate jewelry! (Ain't I a keeper?)

These things don't matter a whit to us, but we're pretty laid back and keep to ourselves.

I can totally see how these things are important to others, and I'm all for it! What's best for one couple is not what's best for another. We all just have to find the perfect balance.

[stormbourne]

If I were to marry someone, I would take their last name if they would give it. It's not like they suddenly own me, it's more like a sharing.. we all find little ways to give ourselves to one another and the name is just one.. and if it bothered me to take a name or bothered them to give their name then perhaps we shouldn't be marrying anyway. I don't think that will happen anytime soon though, I just turned 28 and stopped talking to the guy I am in love with on the same day. I best stop before I get into a rant.. but if anyone wants to hear it let me know coz I could use someone to talk to 'bout it.

[Schlyne]

I know a couple that instead of getting wedding rings, they got identical tattoos on that ring finger.

For me, I guess it would depend on what his last name was. Also, if I had an established business...etc, changing my last name might be more of a hassle than to keep it.

My kids would probably carry his last name though.

As for wearing a ring, I probably would, but it's hard to say.

I'm an electrical engineer...wearing metal on my hands can be a nice way to electrocuting myself.

[Syka]

When we got married I took my husbands last name.
I chose to do it because I like having that connection with my spouse. We also decided it would be a good idea for when we have children so they could have the same last name as both of their parents.

I do have a wedding ring, that i wear daily. My husband does not have one as he can't wear one do to his job.

[monk90222]

To be quite honest my loyalty lies with my family. I love all of my family dearly and kind of feel that it's disrespectful to just throw away my name so lightly. Not that I wouldn't be loyal to someone I married, but it's entirely possible (divorce rates being what they are) that the marriage wouldn't last.

You sound like you are doomed from the start!...but thats another topic for another thread.

I know a couple that instead of getting wedding rings, they got identical tattoos on that ring finger.

My wife's fingers grew after our second child and she hasn't worn her ring since then so therefore....I also stopped wearing it..lol

I want to get a tattoo ring...I think that's a great idea!