I had some trouble with my first male with long food strikes. It's definitely frustrating when it's the first experience.
More info on the setup and maybe a photo of Smake as well? Knowing the current body conditions can maybe help.
I'm so sorry you're having stress related dreams, especially ones that bad. I would consider asking your vet if they know of a rehabilitator or rescue group that may be able to offer a hand as well. That way in case you become further stressed you'll know of someone to call for help. I wouldn't necessarily explain the details of the dreams to them, just that you're having nightmares about his health and hoping that they can help you. You may be able to find someone to get him started on eating again. Or if your boyfriend is willing to help takeover for a bit and give you a bit of a break.
It's difficult. I'm hoping we can help you out! It's terrible when you need to help yourself and your pet. I've been there. But while you need to do whatever is best for Smake, you also need to do good by you as well.