This has been, for very sad and unfortunate reasons, a very interesting thread to me.
I am struck at how so many people are trying to be helpful to the OP's situation and, also, with the responses of the OP. The failure to connect, it appears, is that the OP appears to be suffering from the "tunnel vision" that comes with traumatic loss and doesn't even recognize it, and that most of the folks replying to the OP's threads, while genuinely trying to help, do not appear to have factored that "tunnel vision" into their responses.
You are all discussing the same situation, but it's like you're coming at it from two different planes of existence. Anyone who has dealt with folks suffering from gut-wrenching grief knows exactly what I'm talking about. A bit over-dramatic? Perhaps. An opportunity for a relevant learning experience? Definitely.
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