I agree with you in that some people can be pretty firm off the bat about some things, such as unregulated thermostats or other such HAZARDOUS situations, but it shouldn't take much to understand those comments are out of concern for the animal and intended to make sure the owner/poster understands that there is a potentially dangerous problem with how they are caring for their animals.
Nobody is trying to own other peoples snakes; most of us are plenty entertained owning and caring for our own. Perhaps understanding the difference between a malicious thrashing on someone's practices and a firmly written note of concern would benefit you in understanding our positions and intent. I understand sometimes emotions are hard to discern through a computer screen. But this site harbors a community of people who strive to help and educate each other, and as far as I've noticed the people you have been "defending" in these threads have actually been thankful for the advice.
Now that this thread is thoroughly derailed...