thanks for all the reply. Its all very encouraging.

my SO is not really scare of the danger of snake per say, she is more disturb by any animal without fur (she got curious about my rats the other day, took a peak and the first thing she saw is my hairless girl and she was shaken for the whole day). As per advice, i'm gonna take it slow and not force it on her. I'm trying to find way to engage her in snake related conversation though. Because i feed my rats table food sometimes, it resulted in light hearted conversation about my rats and their community behaviour which spark curious question from my SO. although she still hates them i feel that just talking about it makes the rats seem not so scary. I'm having trouble casually sparking a conversation about snakes though. it doesn't help that some of her frds thinks i'm weird for keeping snakes and even weirder for raising ratst to feed it


i guess i just have to take it slowly, hopefully she will come around and joint my passion. if not, no big deal. If she is willing to be with me despite her phobia i should appreciated it and stop complaining