Quote Originally Posted by Deborah View Post
You deal with it by not imposing YOUR passion on others.

I am married to someone who was scared of snakes, he is now ok with the idea but he will not touch them, or go in the snake room....he dislike rats even more.

I breed both snakes and rats and so long he does not have to deal with any of it he is fine.

Because someone has a hobby it does not mean the other person should have the same hobby.

If one day she comes around them fine but if she does not it's ok too.


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This. I'm in a very similar position with my hubby.

SHE has to WANT to get over her fear of the snakes. If she gets to that point, THEN work slowly with a calm, pretty snake, as others have suggested.

When Brian Barczyk first started dating Lori, she hated snakes completely and would not go into his room. Eventually though, she would sit in the corner of his room while he did cleaning chores, just so she could be close to him. And in time, she started helping with some of the simpler cleaning chores so they could get it done faster and get on with the "fun" stuff of the day. And before too much longer, she was handling snakes like a pro herself.

Just two different examples of how things with a snake-hating/-fearing partner might go. Whatever you do though, you have to accept her as she is and not push it.