So, are my requirements too hard/high?

[Neal]

If you were looking for a guy with those requirements, then it'd be pretty easy, but girls like that are fewer and farther between. They do exist though, and are typically looking for guys who share in their interests, so just keep going to expos and stuff and you may meet one. You're more likely to find a girl that is tolerant of snakes, than into them though, or an animal lover who is more into fuzzy things but has nothing against snakes.

My husband isn't into herps at all, he's kind of afraid of them...not like they might bite, but he says he's scared to hurt them (maybe that's just an excuse lol). He did hold my BP last night for the first time though (I got her a month ago), so maybe he's coming around.





I could see this being a problem if you ever decide to get any very large breed snakes that might pose a perceived risk to children. I don't know how old you are, but if you become serious with someone (even if she is into snakes) and she starts thinking along the lines of starting a family, you very well may get an ultimatum.

I keep Rufous Beaked and Ball Pythons. The RB are rear fanged venomous but are probably among the most docile snakes. Everybody I know that has them says they've never attempted to bite or strike out of aggression.

I hate to use a cliche, but relationships really are about compromise. I had never once even thought about buying a gun, but hubby likes them and it makes shopping for presents really easy (you can never have too many he says ). And despite my initial aversion to firearms, I love antiques, so he got me on board with a WWI Enfield (I fired it once, it hurt, so I just look at it and admire the patina on the stock), and now I love trap shooting. He'd never had dogs before, and despite claiming they're expensive and obnoxious, when he's away he talks to "his little boy" on Skype (and yes the dog sits and stares back at him, super cute).

The point is this, if you really care for someone you want them to be happy, even when you don't understand why certain things work for them. And if someone really cares for you, they'll want you to be happy too. So maybe your points are too specific at this point in time, but a girl who cares for you will make an effort to understand your hobbies, and if your lucky she'll eventually like them too.

Yea, somethings can be negotiated, but those two things aren't. The gaming maybe could be but something would have to seriously replace my time, but the snakes aren't going anywhere period, that will not happen. I agree that changes for the better are always good, but getting rid of snakes isn't changing for the better.