You guys who haven't been through it would be surprised how many times a death in the family is used as an excuse by scammers. The guy offered the refund, why are you all jumping all over the OP for taking him up on his offer? It's not like she demanded it, he offered. My spidey senses were tingling as soon as I heard death in the family. It's just too common to overlook.
All of you, or most of you, are jumping on the OP in much the same manner you are accusing her of using on the seller.