If someone (new or not, experienced or naive) is being a jerk, that's an entirely different thing. My original point was that when someone asks for help, offer help or leave it alone, basically. When someone is clearly upset by their situation, regardless of who or what is to blame, the humane thing to do is to keep your non-contributing thoughts to yourself until the situation is resolved.

If you want to post a new thread later, or send them a private message to ask why they made a stupid decision, that's cool. Just don't chime in with, "Your own fault, JackWagon!" and then not offer anything further.

Now, if you're trying to help and you're met with complete reluctance to even consider that you might know more than someone who has a cousin with a friend who used to read ball python books in study hall in the eighth grade, that's different. I'm only talking about the initial interaction.

I just think people could be a little nicer. That's all.