You all have been a huge help...thank you so much.
I DO have a 10 gallon tank (no fish in it) that I could use for a temporary home until the snake outgrows it, so that wouldn't be an issue. I really do like the bp's but if a corn snake, king snake or gopher snake would be a better start for little kids I am ok with that too. And if dad nix's the snake (he keeps saying 'We'll see...") then I might be visiting the lizard forums. too.
Lot's of reading to do!