Sometimes I hate him!

[Kodieh]

This comment here worries me. If you are only not leaving because you tied the knot, then I believe that you should leave immediately. I said on multiple occasions that I would have left my wife were in not for us having kids together, and in the end we split anyway. If you are in a position where you would leave based solely on that person, but other circumstances are making you stay (kids, marriage, etc.), then forget about the other circumstances and leave. Not telling you to leave, just trying to give some insight.

I think, instead of saying its harder leave when married, that the proper more informative way is to say that "it's easier to separate because nothings become intertwined". When dating, you give their stuff back and get yours and it's over. Married, there is paper work and shared accounts, housing arrangements (leases, taxes), car issues, and some times kids and/or pets. So, while its material driven, you're more likely to try and make things work for a longer time do that you don't have to deal with it. It's motivation, lacked when dating, that drives you to try for longer.

And thats what I think she means, rather than "well, we're dating and I'm done, good bye". There is also family issues, I'd say it would be difficult but not impossible to not have to see my wife's family.


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