Sometimes I hate him!

[Annarose15]

On a serious note, OP, don't abandon the guy you loved enough to marry because he has a problem with drugs. Get him help and be by his side to support him on his road to recovery. Leaving the poor guy will only further his problem. If you care about him, help him into recovery. Trust me, I'm in recovery and having a loving support system is vital!

I'm sorry, but he has made three choices in this situation that became HER problem. He went to work in a restaurant, starting using drugs again, and STOLE REPEATEDLY from her. Anyone who has worked in the restaurant industry knows that drugs, especially marijuana, are a part of many employees' lifestyles, so this was a stupid, irresponsible choice of job for him to get/keep. HE went out and starting using an illegal substance, which is not chemically addictive (unlike meth), but he CAN'T AFFORD. HE stole money TWICE that keeps a roof over their heads. Sure, put him in a program (again). But the only one that can change him is HIM, and she should not allow him to choose his "entertainment", addiction, or sheer selfishness over her ability to survive. There is a difference between support and enabling, and allowing "mistake" after devious, dishonest "mistake" is NOT HELPING ANYONE.