I would keep working on her and try to convince her that by letting you keep them she would be doing you a favor. Sometimes reverse psychology works. I picked up a female spider BP from a distant family member in January. We purchased a clutch mate at the same time from the same person same day. Come January, this little girl only weighed in at 121grams and was severely dehydrated. Now 8 months later, she is doing great has a nice solid weight to her and does not even look the same. My "special" relative said the snake would not eat and that is why it was so little. Since I got her, she has never missed a meal. Good luck in getting them from her, I feel for your situation.