I am so frustrated...

[Vesper]

Allow me to rant for a bit, and tell you a big long story..

In June, my mother informed me that she wants to sell the house. Now we knew this was going to happen, but she was always saying how we had at least two more years before that because they had a lot of fixing to do. So, it totally bombed any of our plans (we live in one of their extra houses they don't live in anymore, and we do pay them for it). So, she said we have till October then. Well...at the moment we didn't know what to do. We didn't think we could afford buying a house, plus we DONT want to stay in this state. I have never lived in a state where I am soooo frustrated with the people. We had plans to continue on and move to Washington. So my mother comes up with the great idea, I had taken some days off for my birthday, why not fly up to Seattle and look into the housing market and see if it's somewhere we'd really like to be.
So, July came around. Ugh. It was wonderful. The area was so clean, the air was great, people didn't drive me up the wall. The cost of living is a little higher of course, but I had already looked into transferring and we'd be making enough there that it evens out. So it all looked great. We were even finding nice little houses within our price range.

Then the battle came. Finding a house that was still available and finding a good realtor. Every house we looked at was getting snatched up quickly. We started to feel hopeless, and I was starting to get angry and frustrated. The last day we were there we found the best realtor in the world, she showed us houses that had just come onto the market, were in our price range and didn't try and push us out of it, spent all day with us looking at several houses. At the end of the day we put in offers for three different houses. I went home the next day and we waited. At home we started getting some odds and ends together. Making our plans and making sure we wouldn't be setting ourselves up for failure. Then one of our offers was accepted! One the house I really really wanted in the first place! Great! We started the process, and about a week end, hit a dead end. The loan company wanted us to move right away. Like, tomorrow right away. Transfer our jobs, show residency, prove our pay within at least another week. Either that, or get proof that we were transferring, which isn't how it works at our job. They just won't do it.

I wasn't willing to risk jumping like that, so after a couple of hours banging it out to see if we could do it, we ended up backing out. My parents gave us until May/next summer to situate ourselves, because they saw first hand how hard it was to find an available home. We thought we would just get an apartment in the Seattle area until we could get a house, but the expenses of it added up to a lost of wasted money. Plus, we have two dogs and two cats, and no one wanted to touch that. My mom started to talk about selling the RV they had. Great! We could buy it, use it to live in temporarily until we got things taken care of with the house. We agreed that she would just give it to us, and our 'payment' for it would be to fix it up since had some very small things wrong with it (needed new tires, a new battery and a fridge. Probably some new carpets and just needed a good cleaning).

So for the last few months, this is what we thought we were going to be doing. I'm talking to her last night and she's suddenly asking me twenty questions about our plans. What month we're leaving, how we're going to do it, if we're going to get an apartment once we get there. She KNOWS what we planned on doing, so I asked what her deal was. I guess the RV is in worse shape then she thought, and she thinks it's not going to make it to Washington. Once more, back peddling out of something she said would happen. She said we'd figure it out later and brushed it off like no big deal.

But it is to me...Everytime we seem to be doing so good and then something crashes in our face. I'm beginning to think it's never going to happen, and we're going to get stuck here, which is what I told my mom and my partner when they asked me why I didn't want to come back here. I told them we'd get stuck. I'm so frustrated, and I'm starting to get depressed. It's so disheartening to feel so incredibly close to one of your dreams in life, and then to get smacked in the face and told no over and over and over again. I sometimes wish I never told myself we could do this...what a stupid idea. v.v

[Mike41793]

What line of work are you and your partner in that you cant leave with just a 2 weeks notice...?

[BleedingOrange36]

Hang in there, and don't give up on your dreams. I myself have tried to get out of the state I am in (NJ) I moved to las Vegas.... One year later I was back. Now in ready to try again.... But between my truck payment and other bills I don't think it's possible right now. My mom just told me two days ago that she is moving to Florida.... Once she moves it will only be me left here. My sister, grandparents and an aunt live within 10 mins of each other in fl. My mom will be moving within the same city as them. So with her and my little brother moving down there, it only seems logical that I soon follow. My girlfriend and I are on the same page, but without having jobs lined up its impossible to go. Half of my girlfriends family live within 20mins from my family down there lol..... As soon as my lease is up I plan to hit the road once again... But between my credit taking a dump after my horrible move back from Vegas, and not being able to save while dishing out 2400$ a month in bills..... How will I get a house? I could always rent, but with 11 snakes, 6 turtles, 1 tortoise, 2cats and a dog... Who will rent to me???
Yep.... I feel your pain man. Hang in there

[Vesper]

Mike;
It's not that we can't leave, its that they won't give us paperwork saying that we're transferring to a different state, which is what the loan company wanted. Either we showed proof of an up coming transfer, or we transferred and showed proof of our new positions in state. We could have transferred, yes, but we had no place to live until the paperwork for the house was done.

Plus, the loan company wasn't giving us enough time to give our company two weeks notice, which just looks worse during transferring. They'll do it, but the next office reviews it. They were just pushing everything too fast.

Bleeding;
Yeah...I don't know what we'll do when it comes time to get out of the house. We have no choice. Next summer we have to leave somewhere. Apartments won't rent to us either, just because of our dogs mostly. They're big dogs. Everywhere else we've lived, we've been fine finding someone to accept them. But when we came back out West, we couldn't find much. Nothing locally here, found one place in Seattle that will take the dogs, but not the cats. And I...I just can't bring it on to myself to rehome my cats. One of the cats is 18 years old, too old to rehome.

[Valentine Pirate]

Don't give up! I can relate to the cost of living, being out in the islands it gets even more pricey because of the cost it takes for everything to get here (from fuel to food to, well, everything else). Have you looked locally for another motorhome/RV that could get you to WA? Maybe even trade in the one your mother was giving you, if you can do something like it.

[Kaorte]

I've been waiting on the bank to approve an offer for the last 4 months... Buying a place can be a pretty slow process.

Hang in there! Eventually we will all get to where we want to be

[Vesper]

I've been waiting on the bank to approve an offer for the last 4 months... Buying a place can be a pretty slow process.

Hang in there! Eventually we will all get to where we want to be

Yeah, that's exactly why we backed out of this last one. I understand it'll take time once start back in on it, but when we had to move quickly and all that junk...just wasn't worth it at the time. We didn't have a place to stay, hotels cost a pretty penny for a month's stay. Then on top of it, you don't how long the closing will really take...they really had screwed up any plans we'd had in wanting us to drop everything right this minute and move.

[.G&S Royal pythons.]

Keep fighting, everything happens for a reason, and everything will fall into place when its supposed to.

[Argentra]

Hang in there, it can be hard but ultimately rewarding...especially moving up here. My advice: don't overlook the surrounding 'cities'. I live in Kent, south of Seattle, and adore it! Tukwilla is also a very nice place (between us and Seattle), as is Renton in most areas. And these places tend to be much more affordable than the 'Big City' while giving plenty of commute options, including the Sounder train, for getting into Seattle proper. And the suburbs are a bit more accepting of animals.

[Vesper]

Hang in there, it can be hard but ultimately rewarding...especially moving up here. My advice: don't overlook the surrounding 'cities'. I live in Kent, south of Seattle, and adore it! Tukwilla is also a very nice place (between us and Seattle), as is Renton in most areas. And these places tend to be much more affordable than the 'Big City' while giving plenty of commute options, including the Sounder train, for getting into Seattle proper. And the suburbs are a bit more accepting of animals.

Oh yeah. I can't...stand to live really close to a city anyway. lol. That's half the reason we're moving now. When we were looking at houses we stayed in those areas you're talking about. A lot of them in Tacoma. A few in Puyallup, which I really really liked.
The RV was just a really great thing because we're unsure where the best place for work is with our company. Everytime I look they have openings everywhere, but they don't ever tell you how many. So the RV gave us the ability to pick up and move to wherever they put us and then we could go on and search for houses in the area.

But then on the flip side, we'll be getting out of the security gigs after we get the house...so, I don't know where the best place would be for that. XD So that's something else we've got to figure out.

This is the first move we've ever done where we just don't jump. It's kinda nice, but stressful. It seems like the RV will work out though, my mother can sometimes...make things sound much worse then they are.