I need someone to help me out by answering this...

[Valentine Pirate]

Same tack as Mike.

When I'm sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead.

Focusing on the negative amplifies problems. Make small goals that you can meet easily, and work up to ones that you have to put a little more effort into. Accomplishing things you work for brings confidence that no one can take away from you

[wilomn]

Remember last time you were here and the crisis you had then? Remember asking much the same question and getting much the same answer? If you don't, that's part of your problem. LISTEN to the answers you get. If you do remember, then perhaps the problem is more one of wanting attention than needing confidence.

Either way, this sounds like someone hit replay.

[python_addict]

thanks everyone but nothings working for me right now I guess its just stuck on empty until the one who broke me can fix me also I never remember asking for advise on gaining self confidence actually I remember never asking but thanks for trying everyone but theres nothing im really good at

[Kaorte]

The one who broke you will absolutely not be able to fix you. It never works like that.

What you really should do is not let someone break you. I know it's probably to late to say that now, but it is true. Stand up for yourself. You are awesome and don't let anyone tell you that you aren't.

Everyone is good at something. Just because you haven't found that something yet doesn't mean it isn't there. Don't give up on yourself like this.

[camel]

Well you seem to have a lot of snakes, a lot of posts here and a lot of thanked posts, so from that I would infer that you are good at keeping snakes and being knowledgeable on them. So there is one thing already that you are good at.

Sometimes it is hard to see the things we are good at.

Try a list and add to it every day. Write down all the things that you are good at.
Start small and add everything.

eg.

1. I am a good and responsible snake owner
2. I am punctual
3. I have good fashion sense etc

List everything even if it seems small and insignificant. If you do this properly, you will be surprised at how much you are actually good at

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Well you seem to have a lot of snakes, a lot of posts here and a lot of thanked posts, so from that I would infer that you are good at keeping snakes and being knowledgeable on them. So there is one thing already that you are good at.

Sometimes it is hard to see the things we are good at.

Try a list and add to it every day. Write down all the things that you are good at.
Start small and add everything.

eg.

1. I am a good and responsible snake owner
2. I am punctual
3. I have good fashion sense etc

List everything even if it seems small and insignificant. If you do this properly, you will be surprised at how much you are actually good at

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sorry about that double post, my connection cut off and it seemed to mess it up... oops

[BallsUnlimited]

Get ride of everything that has to do with the one who broke you. He knos he can control you by ur emotions. Move onto better things an stop thinking about the past or ull be in the same place u are now. Goodluck an keep ur head up Lacey

[DooLittle]

If someone "broke" you, you need to get rid of them as fast as you can. Someone who could do that is a terrible, poor excuse for a human being. If you get rid of all the bad, you may just find that you are happy, and believe in yourself again. Maybe for finding the strength to make your own decisions. Take control of your life, don't live it for someone else, the way they want you too. Make decisions that make YOU happy. Good luck.

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[Plissken]

To build confidence, you should start winning. Fix the small things in your life that you have control over. Join a gym and get in shape...it's amazing how feeling good physically can make you feel good emotionally. If you see yourself making physical improvements and are able to do more without getting tired, you're more apt to try bigger and better things because you become physically confident in your abilities, this becomes mirrored pychologically. Seems fairly simple, but it could be a good start for you.
Remember, those who try to take your confidence and keep you down, do it so that they can have power over you...they do this because they feel powerless in their own lives and keeping someone down, gives them a false sense that they are at least better than you...a very pathetic, weak-minded attitude.

Best of luck to you...only you can change how you feel about yourself.

[python_addict]

I have been in shape for some time now I slowed down and gained a few pounds but Im back to 132 so actually realizing that its kinda awesome lol but I have been trying to improve on my appearance like tan, work out, change style just simple stuff so I dont know if its going to do anything

[snakesRkewl]

I have been trying to improve on my appearance like tan, work out, change style just simple stuff so I dont know if its going to do anything

It won't, beauty comes from within.

Volunteer, giving is one of the best ways you can gain self confidence.
Help others in worse shape than yourself, a soup line, picking up a mess that a senior citizen can't on their own.
Helping others is helping yourself...it's karma