The Boy Friend or Snakes ???

[Skittles1101]

It's definitely easier to accept jobs, school and children over accepting a hobby. Just because you're passionate about something doesn't mean it's right to ignore someone you care about. I used to play video games and hockey a lot more than I spent time with my now fiance. Just because I was passionate about it, doesn't mean it was right. I realized my mistakes and changed. Now we are engaged and have a beautiful baby.

Before you go spouting advice that could potentially ruin a relationship, maybe you should think that there are always two sides to every story. Not to mention, how you feel towards your hobby and your relationships may not reflect how she feels towards hers. Saying things such as "get over it or take a hike" is ridiculously bull-headed and selfish. That's a response that doesn't even CONSIDER the other persons feelings.

There are always two sides. The problem is we're only getting one. Based on what I read, along with everyone else, he's less than pleased with the snakes. Now, unless she's one of those people we see on the discovery channel that's beyond obsessed with her snakes, I highly doubt she's putting her plans on hold with him so she can sit in a room holding her snakes for hours on end. In that case then obviously there is a bigger issue, but we don't SEE any bigger issues because we only got a very vague description and it's only one sided. Anything you or I or anyone else says is speculation. Sounds to me like you're ASSuming this guy is Mr. Wonderful, when in fact he could be a controlling A like my ex husband. Based on the very little facts she gave, I made an honest opinion on how I deal with this crap.

Don't scold me, I know what it's like to give up everything you love and bend your entire life to make someone ELSE happy. I finally got my head out of my behind and got divorced. I also have a very beautiful son out of it. Based on MY life experiences, which you have no idea about, I'd definitely tell him to take a hike. I'm not ruining anyone relationships, she's a grown woman and can make her own decisions. I simply stated my opinion.

Edit: And just to add, this isn't "just a hobby" to me, this is a huge part of me, these are living beings, much like my child/job/military. Hence why there isn't much room to budge for compromise. Please, next time you want to reprimand someone for their opinion, try taking their feelings into consideration, since you're so big on that.