My fiance wants to make our cat our best man.

[Navy]

We were discussing who should be my fiance's best man
and I jokingly mentioned "Make Boo your best man, you can put him in a tuxedo, and have him on a stool at the alter, it'll be great" and he's like
"THAT'S A GREAT IDEA"
He knows how important Boo is to me, he'll be 9 in august and he'd been with me since I was 9. He was the offspring of a cat I had when I was 7 who is still alive, but doesn't live with us because when we moved, she walked miles back to our old house every time, so our neighbor said he'd take care of her for us, since it made her happy.
I was like
"I was just joking" and he's like "Yeah, but I'm not, all of my friends are [jerks] anyway"
Opinions?

[wilomn]

Children shouldn't be getting married.

[Sama]

Lol, my sister's ring bearer was her blue heeler. Not sure about a cat as a best man but if that would make you happy, go for it, it's your day. If your really uncomfortable with the idea then say so and surly something else can be worked out. Nikki did great as the ring bearer, but all the people did make her a little nervous, she wouldn't go back to her seat and instead followed behind my sister the rest of the ceremony. It was very fun and memorable : ).

[PorcelainxDoll]

She didnt ask your opinion on her age. Plus you never kbow how long till her weddinng.
I think having the best man as a cat would be cute or at least have the human best man hod him mayve.

[JaGv]

there has to be someone close to him.

[KTyne]

Lol, I would totally do that, that's awsome. If your cat wouldn't be comfortable though then I wouldn't do it... think about the kitty.

[Navy]

Children shouldn't be getting married.

A) We don't plan on getting married for at least 3 more years
B) We've been together for four.
C) We are both financially secure

So what's the problem?
I didn't realize there was an age limit after you're legally an adult to get married and that you had to be together for more than that to know if you love them/want to spend your life with them.
He's the only person I've ever dated, will date, want to date, and after years of dating someone, I think it becomes easy to know if you'll be willing to spend your life with them or not.

[Bellatrix_LeSnake]

The only problem I can see is that if you're (presumably by the age of your cat) 18 and have been with the same person since you were 14, you probably haven't tested the waters to see what's out there all that much. I think it's hard to know if you really love someone until you've been with a lot of people you definitely do not love.

However, no one can predict the future to know how happy your marriage will be, so congratulations. I'm not sure about the cat as best man though. It seems to me something that will be funny in the moment and for a year or so, but when you watch the wedding video in a decade will seem a bit kitchy.

[Navy]

The only problem I can see is that if you're (presumably by the age of your cat) 18 and have been with the same person since you were 14, you probably haven't tested the waters to see what's out there all that much. I think it's hard to know if you really love someone until you've been with a lot of people you definitely do not love.

However, no one can predict the future to know how happy your marriage will be, so congratulations. I'm not sure about the cat as best man though. It seems to me something that will be funny in the moment and for a year or so, but when you watch the wedding video in a decade will seem a bit kitchy.

The problem with that is, I've never really been interested in anyone else.
While everyone else in my class was chasing boys, I was uninterested, I just didn't see the point of dating with no feeling attached to it, and anyone who was interested in me were promptly turned down. (And I was called all sort of nasty names like the C and B words, along with stuck up for that reason)
My fiance and I started out as friends and we moved up from there.
I understand what you mean, though, if it were the other way around, and someone my age was engaged, I'd think "Are you sure you know what you're getting into?". You're not the first to tell me this, and I appreciate advice, I just don't like the idea of someone telling me I shouldn't do something without knowing the exact situation.

He's one of those guys I literally cannot picture myself with anyone else. It's hard to explain to someone who doesn't share the same feelings, especially as young as we are.

[Navy]

Stupid timer
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I'll admit that we're kids, too. Even though the law says we're adults, we know we haven't fully mentally matured, and that's why we're waiting.

We go together like white on rice, peas and carrots, wile e coyote and road runner.
And we're really proud of the fact that we got it right on the first try, and that we've had the experience of watching each other learn and grow through the past few years. Which, believe it or not, some of the stupid stuff we used to do as early high schoolers we look back on now like "What were we thinking?"

And we've been to hell and back with some things I rather not go into detail with and stuck through it no matter what.
It's very easy to assume that we don't know what the heck we're doing, I understand that, but I know there are exceptions, I've seen it.