Being married vs. being single

[WingedWolfPsion]

Bawha. The good guys are either taken, or aren't local.

That's why I imported mine from Sweden. (Yep, met him online), lol.

[Coleslaw007]

A good rule for life:

Disregard females. Acquire currency.


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[Virus]

A good rule for life:

Disregard females. Acquire currency.


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Lulzworthy timing.
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I have never seen the point in marriage. I am not against relationships, but marriage just has no meaning to me. As a dirty heathen, I don't have any omnipotent force driving me to wedlock. I also don't like the idea of giving someone, however trustworthy, the potential to take half of my possessions at any given time (being a male isn't always that fun).

Now, I have been with my girlfriend for over five years, and we've been through a lot. Not necessarily a lot of conflict, but I've been away for about two years of it due to military service. I know she likes the idea of being married some day, but honestly, I have higher prioroties to spend the money on before I spend (waste) on a ring.

I don't know what my future holds for me, and I don't really care to know. What will happen, will happen, and most likely it will be due to my own doing.

[olstyn]

Well, I've also been on and off of them since I was 5ish, so something was bound to get messed up. However, I've been off them since early 2010, which causes me to think that this is just me. Still, given that there is so little known about the mind, it's really hard to say. Overall, I don't feel attacked; if I did, I'd speak up

Nah. If I was depressed I wouldn't have been posting. I supposed that my overall demeanor comes off as depressed when I'm actually more indifferent.

Wow, I'm no psychiatric expert, but I'm surprised to learn that a doctor would prescribe antidepressants to a 5 year old. At that age, our neural pathways are so far from a mature configuration that bringing chemicals into the situation seems strange. It's probably far more common than any of us would guess, though.

I don't imagine much of what I've said in this thread has helped you, but hopefully it at least hasn't hurt.

[Rob]

Just came Went to a good friends wedding last night, it's was a great time. Anywho I really think there is someone for everyone, even people who enjoy solitude. Most people that are set on being alone for life, in my opinion just haven't met that one person yet.

[Mike41793]

She commented in the thread and told all of us about her situation, and in my view, at least, sounded pretty depressed, so some of us who are curious by nature and/or generally try to help people tried to:

a) get more info

and

b) see if we could help by discussing it

I'm not really sure why that's hard to understand.

It was hard for me to understand bc she didnt seem depressed at all to me in the first place. I see things differently than you, thats all.

[Raptor]

Wow, I'm no psychiatric expert, but I'm surprised to learn that a doctor would prescribe antidepressants to a 5 year old. At that age, our neural pathways are so far from a mature configuration that bringing chemicals into the situation seems strange. It's probably far more common than any of us would guess, though.

I don't imagine much of what I've said in this thread has helped you, but hopefully it at least hasn't hurt.

It's getting more and more common for it to happen. Considering I felt severely depressed at that age, and I do remember it distinctly, I probably needed the medication.

Just came Went to a good friends wedding last night, it's was a great time. Anywho I really think there is someone for everyone, even people who enjoy solitude. Most people that are set on being alone for life, in my opinion just haven't met that one person yet.

Takes longer for some people. My mom was in her mid 40s when she finally found the person for her.

[paperaith]

Okay, I read like the first 3 pages and skipped the rest so I have no idea what you guys are talking about, but back to the OT:


-Are you going to get married or are you going to stay single?
I would like to get married. I think the guy I'm with now is the one I'm going to marry.

-Do you believe that you have to be married to experience 'true happiness'?
Absolutely not.

-Do you believe getting married restricts you from doing certain things?
No. But, I have been in polyamorous relationships and known many people in very happy, functional open marriages. What else would marriage theoretically restrict you from other than sleeping around? The way you interpret marriage and make it work for you is YOUR business. You don't have to, and shouldn't, live by other peoples' standards.

[xFenrir]

-Are you going to get married or are you going to stay single?
I will get married, one of these days. I'm 22 and my boyfriend and I currently live together. At first I did what I did with my relationships that were after high school: "Okay we're dating, when are we gonna get married?", which caused me to be super clingy and controlling and we fought a LOT. But after a while I realized that you know what? If we're meant to get married, we will. And heck, we're living together, we sleep in the same bed and we come home to each other. That's pretty much marriage only without the rings and vows and papers. So I slowed myself down and am just letting myself enjoy our relationship, however it goes. It's improved our relationship 100%. Like everyone says, you're 17, who knows what you'll want in 5 years, 2 years or even at the end of the summer. I wouldn't shut yourself off to the idea, just keep doing what you're doing and see what happens. Enjoy life!

-Do you believe that you have to be married to experience 'true happiness'?
No. I've had true happiness and it's been with my boyfriend. Heck, I've had true happiness with my friends and by myself. True happiness doesn't come from other people, it comes from you, because what makes you truly happy is unique to you. Other people can make you truly happy because you let them.
On the flip side, I will say that there is a certain happiness that comes from being loved by someone, and being able to share intimate moments with that one person (and I don't just mean sexual things). There's a happiness in my life that only my boyfriend brings. But it's not just my only happiness in life, and that's a good thing. Making your life solely about your significant other often creates more unhappiness than happiness. Trust me, I know and I've seen other people who have done it. Balance is key.
-Do you believe getting married restricts you from doing certain things?
Yes, but they're things that if you want to do them, you shouldn't be getting married in the first place! (I'm going with the traditional values here; I've been in an open relationship before and I know people who have been completely happy with it; ironically I was 17-18 at the time I was in one, and it wasn't good or bad, it just was a lot of work! Plus as I got older I got selfish, I could never share my boyfriend with anyone else! xD ) Marriage is a partnership, not a master-and-slave contract. If that's what it feels like going into it, then you need to back up and re-evaluate if that's the person YOU want to get married to.

[Valentine Pirate]

-Are you going to get married or are you going to stay single?
I don't have a preference either way. The man I'm currently with has had some terrible experiences when it comes to marriage, and while I'd say yes in a heart beat if he asked, I just don't care about it enough to get worked up or worried about it. If it happens, great! If not, I'm still in an absolutely wonderful relationship. Not being married also keeps me out of child support/custody complications (if his ex wasn't a vicious money sucking harpy I wouldn't worry about it)

-Do you believe that you have to be married to experience 'true happiness'?
Not at all. I don't believe that marriage actually changes anything in a relationship. Or at least it shouldn't. Things should be solid and people should be happy before they're married. I'm the spawn of a couple who got married way too young, and stayed married for much longer than they should've (with 4 kids I can see why they tried, but it did more damage in the long run). If people are really wanting to commit to "till death do us part", just seems to make sense to make sure the relationship is livable and something that you want before making a legal binding.

-Do you believe getting married restricts you from doing certain things?
Depends on the marriage! Some people have fantastic open marriages, some people are strictly one on one. Some are chaotic and restrictive whereas others are more of a partnership. Being in a relationship now I know I can do whatever I please, but I chose to do things that make my significant other happy, because it makes me happy. It's all up to those involved in the situation