Completely devastated

[Jaxx]

This has been a great thread to help pass the night. We have had alleged child abuse, suicide attempts, drama, possible statutory rape, one of the most childish "Adults" I have seen post, death threats, outbursts, childish fantasies, lies, putting people on ban lists, removing them, Locking/Unlocking of thread. Complete turn around of beliefs from OP. Outlandish thought processes. It was extremely entertaining, thank you very much for this.

[Daybreaker]

Trolling or not, I think you need to cut your losses Evan and move it along.

Life is short, and just think how much more fullfilling it would be to spend that short amount of time with someone who is 1) an adult who can do what they want without their parents hovering over their heads, 2) has less baggage, and 3) who is financially/mentally/and emotionally capable of supporting themselves and adding to the relationship is positive ways.

Think how nice it would be to be able to see your girlfriend when you wanted, didn't have to worry about her parents ruling over what she and you say or do, could talk to her when you wanted to via whichever way you wanted, could go to certain events, places, and do certain activites with you without worrying about age or whatnot, and might even share the same passion/hobbies as you do (snakes) without having to worry about all this other stuff thats come along in this current relationship. You could focus on your relationship without tons of other baggage hovering about.

She could be everything you've ever wanted right now...but you might not see it that way forever. Hate to say it, but there's a LOT of girls out there and most likely there's one that's better suited to you who's just waiting to be found.

I do commend you for waiting until she's 18 though, good job.

Good luck.

[wilomn]

(Moderators I did not call names and if a member that's been here that long can say i'm full of BS I would think it's not against the rules)

Well, you got THAT one right.

That makes one.

[Slashmaster]

Exactly. I've only seen her one time we never planned on doing anything like that until she turned eighteen so no law breaking here.

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think the mom could allege you of breaking the law somehow (regarding to sex with minors) simply by being in a relationship with her. She could claim that you took advantage of her daughter sometime when you visit her, even if you hadn't... it's a really bad situation to be in.

[meowmeowkazoo]

I feel like I just saw the five stages of grief occur within the space of a few hours.

[evan385]

I feel like I just saw the five stages of grief occur within the space of a few hours.

Hahaha this is great, made my night xD

[evan385]

I feel like I just saw the five stages of grief occur within the space of a few hours.

Also i'm over being sad about it I know she'll find a way to contact me. In fact her other friend told me that she would let her use her phone. But as i've said in an earlier post i'm seriously considering just waiting until she's eighteen before I talk to her again. A wise man once said "If you love it let it go." Or something like that. To me, right now, it will be worth the wait. But who knows if I will feel the same way later? My guess is that I will and nothing will change. But I could be wrong. We shall see.

[Maddumpling]

im so confused. So, you've been dating this girl for like 2-3 years, and you've only seen her once? And you are engaged? I didn't read the past 8 pages of this thread.

[Jessica Loesch]

Evan - you probably don't know who I am and may ignore me for not agreeing with what you want to hear, but I'm going to be blunt.

Girls like this are off their rocker. I see lots of red flags. She claims abuse, she has only seen you once, and you barely talk to each other for lack of communication device but sometimes talk constantly in short spans. Okay, I hate to say this, but it sounds more like she just wants attention when she wants it and then does her own thing during the rest of the time she isnt in contact with you. Not saying this is true, but from an outsider perspective, I see loads of BS coming from HER.

I have no doubt YOU love her, but it sounds more of an obsession. And that's okay, as I have been in this position too, but you need to realize it before you make a mistake. I honestly think she is taking advantage of you and your emotions.

My advice would be to, perhaps, stay in contact but lay off, like you said, until she is 18. If you guys can actually get together for a while, get to know each other in person, and figure out each other's lives together, then maybe it could work. But not until that happens. Internet relationships are hard. You love the person so much but then you meet them, you love them but they aren't what you expected half the time, and sometimes it just doesn't feel the same. I met my ex this way. It made for a bad situation.

Anyway, do what you please, but I personally would not be sticking around if I were you. I would move on.

[evan385]

Evan - you probably don't know who I am and may ignore me for not agreeing with what you want to hear, but I'm going to be blunt.

Girls like this are off their rocker. I see lots of red flags. She claims abuse, she has only seen you once, and you barely talk to each other for lack of communication device but sometimes talk constantly in short spans. Okay, I hate to say this, but it sounds more like she just wants attention when she wants it and then does her own thing during the rest of the time she isnt in contact with you. Not saying this is true, but from an outsider perspective, I see loads of BS coming from HER.

I have no doubt YOU love her, but it sounds more of an obsession. And that's okay, as I have been in this position too, but you need to realize it before you make a mistake. I honestly think she is taking advantage of you and your emotions.

My advice would be to, perhaps, stay in contact but lay off, like you said, until she is 18. If you guys can actually get together for a while, get to know each other in person, and figure out each other's lives together, then maybe it could work. But not until that happens. Internet relationships are hard. You love the person so much but then you meet them, you love them but they aren't what you expected half the time, and sometimes it just doesn't feel the same. I met my ex this way. It made for a bad situation.

Anyway, do what you please, but I personally would not be sticking around if I were you. I would move on.

At least you said nothing strictly negative