Completely devastated

[evan385]

Anyways i'm going to feed my baby girl i'll be back.

[Skiploder]

Exactly. I've only seen her one time we never planned on doing anything like that until she turned eighteen so no law breaking here.

I missed that part.

So you have only her word on the abuse?

[evan385]

I missed that part.

So you have only her word on the abuse?

Yes, like I said just because I love her doesn't mean i'm a pedo and would do anything with her until she's eighteen. Well her mother admitted it to me. After the six months when her mother confronted me and informed me of her real age she asked me to stop seeing her until she turned eighteen. And I agreed but I had conditions. One of them was that she would stop being abusive and be the best mother that she can be. I wanted what was best for her and if not being together meant they would have a good relationship then it was worth it. I only wanted her to be happy. She even let us continue talking as long as we weren't dating and didn't talk about anything relationship related. Well she broke her end of the deal so I broke mine.

[CatandDiallo]

I've already said in an early post that i'm going to back off until she turns eighteen. If she still wants to be with me great. If not it's not the end of the world.

How old will you be when she turns 18?
22?

If you're going to limit yourself to ONLY her, then you might miss out on some great opportunities and some great girls.

Just be open to anything and everything.

I've been in a long-distance relationship too, so I understand where you're coming from. However, we were "allowed" to be in a relationship (this is when the ex that I am talking about went to rehab in the states, he went to rehab after 1 1/2 years of the relationship), and we talked via letters and phone calls if they would allow him.
It sucked.

If you can't talk to her at all, and if you've only seen her once, that is not a relationship. It's barely anything, especially if her mother does not want any contact between you two.

I would seriously re-evaluate this situation and ask yourself if this is the kind of life (love life) you want to lead for the next 2 years at least.

[wilomn]

I smell Tuna. Lots and lots of tuna.

I also smell a psych students research paper.

What I do not smell is a single shred of genuine emotion. Lots of BS, a bit of scheming and a LOT of asskissing, but nothing of substance.

Well done, it seems you fooled some of the more caring of our happy members.

[evan385]

How old will you be when she turns 18?
22?

If you're going to limit yourself to ONLY her, then you might miss out on some great opportunities and some great girls.

Just be open to anything and everything.

I've been in a long-distance relationship too, so I understand where you're coming from. However, we were "allowed" to be in a relationship (this is when the ex that I am talking about went to rehab in the states, he went to rehab after 1 1/2 years of the relationship), and we talked via letters and phone calls if they would allow him.
It sucked.

If you can't talk to her at all, and if you've only seen her once, that is not a relationship. It's barely anything, especially if her mother does not want any contact between you two.

I would seriously re-evaluate this situation and ask yourself if this is the kind of life (love life) you want to lead for the next 2 years at least.

For now but she has always found a way to talk to me. Also the no contact has only been short periods in the last 2 1/2 years. Other than that we talk ALL the time. Recently we talked for over twenty four hours straight and never ran out of things to say. Anyways I guess i'll give in a couple months and if she hasn't contacted me by then I guess it would be time to move on. Maybe i'll find a nice girl on BP.net who's my age. She doesn't like snakes at all and if I have to make that choice I would like to find a girl who's as passionate about ball pythons as I am

[evan385]

I smell Tuna. Lots and lots of tuna.

I also smell a psych students research paper.

What I do not smell is a single shred of genuine emotion. Lots of BS, a bit of scheming and a LOT of asskissing, but nothing of substance.

Well done, it seems you fooled some of the more caring of our happy members.

Honestly I think you're full of BS. Why would I do that? You think this just because i'm not all boo-hoo? [Stuff] happens. She's always found a way to talk to me in the past and I was very upset at first doesn't mean I have to cry like a baby in front of everybody. (Moderators I did not call names and if a member that's been here that long can say i'm full of BS I would think it's not against the rules)

[wilomn]

What I think and what you think I think are not the same. You probably don't want to get in any more whizzing contests on this one so I'll give you the opportunity to bail. You know, like you threatened before you realized that no one was going to beg you to stay?

[CatandDiallo]

Recently we talked for over twenty four hours straight and never ran out of things to say.

That's kind of creepy/crazy.

Anyways, talking to someone on the phone, no matter how long you talk to them for will NEVER be the same as getting to know someone in real life/in person. Even if you think you know who she is by seeing her that one time, you don't.
You don't know what she's really like from day to day, and you will never know, seeing as things are going this way.

I'm just giving you some tough love here.

Anyways I guess i'll give in a couple months and if she hasn't contacted me by then I guess it would be time to move on. Maybe i'll find a nice girl on BP.net who's my age. She doesn't like snakes at all and if I have to make that choice I would like to find a girl who's as passionate about ball pythons as I am

Good. I'm glad that you're taking on this attitude now.

[JLC]

(Moderators I did not call names and if a member that's been here that long can say i'm full of BS I would think it's not against the rules)

Certain acronyms are allowed, such as BS or WTF. In an ideal world, we wouldn't even need to allow that, but for the sake of the staff's sanity, we have to draw the line somewhere this side of ultra-strict. Typing out the curse word, even "bleeping" it with alternate symbols...is not allowed.