Completely devastated

[evan385]

Well I have been with my fiance for over two and a half years. She's everything to me, she's my whole world. She's the reason I get up every morning. She's the first thing I think about every morning when I wake up and the last thing I think about before I go to sleep at night. I love her so much more than words could ever express. Here's the thing. She lives in Memphis, TN and I live in East TN. The one time i've seen her in person I drove 400+ miles as soon as I got off work at what 11:00 p.m. on no sleep and nothing to eat. This was also when I proposed to her. Well the problem is that her mother HATES me and has cut off contact several times, though she's only been successful maybe two times before now. She is sixteen years old and I am nineteen years old. Please no comments about the age difference, it's only three years and I love her more than my life. We will be together until one of us dies I can guarantee that 100%. Anyways the longest we've gone without talking was about two months and that was last year. The last time it was six weeks until she found a friend with a phone to call and text me. Well her friend has just informed me that her mother found out we've been talking, AGAIN. She said that she can't talk to me any more and that her mother asked her (the friend) parents to block my phone number. I have gotten so used to talking her every day during the week anyways. This is the major reason why I hate weekends and love Mondays. I just have this terrible feeling that she won't find a way to talk to me this time and that I will not be able to talk to her for the next two years...; Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope you're having a better day than me

[adamsky27]

You proposed to her the first time you ever saw her? How long ago was that?

[evan385]

You proposed to her the first time you ever saw her? How long ago was that?

That was after we'd been together for two years. We'd been engaged before that it just wasn't official until then.

[Skittles1101]

You're both young, and she's more of a child than you. I'm sorry, I might get burned over this, but a 16 year old is physically not capable of "true love". The brain isn't even fully developed until your mid 20's. I "loved" my ex husband at 17 too...it's not the same now. I suggest if there is ANY chance of a relationship that you grant her parents wishes and stay away. When she's actually an adult she make make decisions for herself. If she waits and you wait, then it may be worth it. If not, then maybe it was the best for the both of you. Good luck in whatever you decide. I'm not trying to be harsh, just being honest...

[evan385]

You're both young, and she's more of a child than you. I'm sorry, I might get burned over this, but a 16 year old is physically not capable of "true love". The brain isn't even fully developed until your mid 20's. I "loved" my ex husband at 17 too...it's not the same now. I suggest if there is ANY chance of a relationship that you grant her parents wishes and stay away. When she's actually an adult she make make decisions for herself. If she waits and you wait, then it may be worth it. If not, then maybe it was the best for the both of you. Good luck in whatever you decide. I'm not trying to be harsh, just being honest...

Well you're wrong, sorry to tell you but that's the truth. If I don't get better comments than this i'll just stick to herps and never post on off-topic cafe again...

[Skittles1101]

Well you're wrong, sorry to tell you but that's the truth. If I don't get better comments than this i'll just stick to herps and never post on off-topic cafe again...

Just because they aren't what you wanted to hear doesn't make them "bad comments". I'm not trying to be a downer, I'm just being honest. According to the law, and mentally, she is considered a kid, therefore she needs to abide by her parents rules. You, as an adult lawfully, should respectfully back off. If nothing else it will show maturity, and may do more "good" in the long run...

[PolishPython]

There is no way of internet contact etc???? Long distance relationships I could never understand but I respect them I just had a buddy meet and talk to a girl on Xbox Live went to see her for a week, just got back last week and informed me when he got back that he is moving in with her and her parents and he left this past fri. Aside from that I can relate to parents interfering with a relationship. I have known my wife since I was in the 8th grade and her in the 7th we dated on and off through high school and got series her senior year through high school. Starting her senior year in high school up until we moved in together 3 years ago her dad tried to and did control what we did. He wouldnt let her take take her car out when we make plans for a date ( i didnt drive at the time). He would call he while we were out and make her come home. At the end of the day I realized he wanted the best for her daughter and that he didnt want me to mess up her with college.So after me blabbing my advice is be patient, she will find a way to contact you. and if you come into contact with her mother or family and you know they dont like you kill them with kindness dont make them dislike you anymore.

[PolishPython]

You're both young, and she's more of a child than you. I'm sorry, I might get burned over this, but a 16 year old is physically not capable of "true love". The brain isn't even fully developed until your mid 20's. I "loved" my ex husband at 17 too...it's not the same now. I suggest if there is ANY chance of a relationship that you grant her parents wishes and stay away. When she's actually an adult she make make decisions for herself. If she waits and you wait, then it may be worth it. If not, then maybe it was the best for the both of you. Good luck in whatever you decide. I'm not trying to be harsh, just being honest...

In respect for the guy he asked not to comment about the age. As for your theory on "TRUE LOVE " not be capable until mid 20's I take offense to that. I have been with my wife for the past 7 years, married, own a home and planning a child together.
As for you Evan, there is no reason NOT to share things you want on here but NOTE there are always going to be people that will aggravate you.

[Clear]

Hate to break it to you Evan, but LGray is right. When you are older you will understand more.

Tough Love: Move on.

[evan385]

In respect for the guy he asked not to comment about the age. As for your theory on "TRUE LOVE " not be capable until mid 20's I take offense to that. I have been with my wife for the past 7 years, married, own a home and planning a child together.
As for you Evan, there is no reason NOT to share things you want on here but NOTE there are always going to be people that will aggravate you.

Thank you for your wonderful reply, that made me feel somewhat better. She's always found a way in the past and i'm sure she will now. No idea how long that will be but hopefully it will be soon. In the meantime I will be able to focus much more time and energy on my ball pythons and I will use my love for them as a way to vent my frustrations of not being able to talk to my girl. While LGray23 has some great input of the normal herp forum I am very offended by her comment and have decided to put her on my ignore list. If L could see into my heart and see the way I feel about her (and she loves me as much as I do her..if not more) she would understand and realize that she is wrong. Anyways thank you and have a great day