haha im sorry i cant help but laugh at that.. not trying to be rude but its parents like that that have the sneakiest children. the more you rule with an iron fist the more your kids are going to find ways to sneak around it. im in my 20s now and my parents tried that for a while when i was 12-16ish then when they realized it was a lot easier to be the cool parents we got along so much better. as long as we let them know what we were doing and where we were gonna be etc they didnt care all that much. we even started hanging out at the house soo much more haha so point of the story.. if your gonna be a iron fist parent then your gonna get hurt when your kids rebel and leave as soon as they can get a foot out the door and push you away as fast as they can.. but if you want to be a little slack and see it from your kids point of view and take interest in it with them.. then your going to have a lot better relationship at the end of the day..