Please help!!!!

[Zayra]

Black shark also has a point, family should always come first.

If your dad is on the verge of losing his job, your mom is sick, and you're all relying off your fiance, get a job and help your family.

I mean, we understand you love your snake, we love snakes too, but if you're struggling, dont give up your families welfare just to have a snake in your hands, give the snake to someone who can help it, and find peace in that it is in good care. I mean, you can be broke, and have a dieing snake that is hanging on by the mere left over threads from that hole in your wallet, or you could be broke and mending your wallet, while knowing that snake is going to live happily.

[shelliebear]

Why can't somebody say all that WITHOUT all the harassment thrown in, too? You're just about the only one....

[ballpythonluvr]

Shelliebear.
I highly commend you for getting the snake the help it needed. No one is here to bash you, they just want what is best for the animal. Some people just come across as being harsh, that is only because they wanted to see the right thing done by this animal. You did what needed to be done and I applaud you for that. Animals are a very big responsibility and we as owners need to make sure we have the resources to care for them. If you could get a job, it would be very responsible to put money aside for animal emergencies. These kind of situations will arise from time to time. Again, I am very proud of you for getting the snake the care it needed and I hope he has a very speedy recovery.

[Zayra]

What tells me that you're not a sutible parent? The fact that your living with your parents and fiance and arn't finished schoool, you are not ready. None of what I said was meant directly to hurt you, you need a reality check. And the amount of times you've contradicted yourself in this thread is overwhelming, we're not trying to hurt you, we're trying to help you. You're not in the position where you should be taking responsibility for any more lives then your own. And that is the cold hard thuth.

[shelliebear]

Well, I'm not just another drop out who hated high school. I love school. I'd tell you more but it's too suspicious.
I know, I know, no kids. Got it.

[Black_Shark]

Shellie,

None of what myself or these people are saying is harassment. We all just want you to etter yourself but from what we've read on here your not ready for any animal/child. You need to have a sit down with yourself and think long and hard about what you want from life, your current financial situation and whether or not this situation will support snakes/children/whatever.

Personally, I want to see you achieve your goals. To do that, you need to face reality, which is that A) You need to finish High School. B) DO NOT marry at this early of an age. While for some people it works out, for the vast majority it will be a decision that they regret for the rest of their lives. Having a spouse early in life severely limits your life options. Please don't get offended by that. I have been dating my gf for 3 years now, since she was a sophomore in High School and I was a senior. She is currently pursuing a degree in Education and Art while I just took the LSAT and am heading to Law School. We both realize that marraige hindes more than helps us at this situation and were content with knowing we love each other. THerefore, we leave open options we wouldn't have if married or engaged. C) Get ajob and work your butt off. I know you will but it bears repeating.

Good Luck and don't take constructive criticism so harshly. We're on your side here!

[shelliebear]

I'm not in a hurry to get married. Jeez, we're engaged but that doesn't mean the wedding is tomorrow.
All our engagement is, is a promise to stick by eachother and help out, and if marriage isn't part of that yet, so be it. The rings signify to us more than "we're going to be married". It's a reminder.
But we're not rushing anything. Do people that get engaged usually get married right away or something???
Trust me, we're not. That costs money too. Plus we have years of life to do all that.

[Black_Shark]

What you say directly contradicts your previous statements and what a person can infer from those statements. Your fiance is living with you. Supporting you at the moment. That is, in my opinion, rushing things. You need to get your life on the track you want and be successful on your own before you insert another person into the equation.

Again, my own opinion. I wish you luck with whatever you choose in that regard!

[shelliebear]

Hmm. I guess I see what you're saying, although I disgaree. In my opinion living together isn't as big a commitment as a marriage. In my opinion you should try living with someone before you get married because who knows, maybe you like dating but you'll hate seeing that person with bedhair and morning breath every day. It's like a test IMO. I like it better than NOT living together and getting married without knowing if we're compatible.
But you have a point. I don't think it contradicts what I said before though.

[Powerspythons]

Do people that get engaged usually get married right away or something???
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I once new a guy who got engaged, married, and divorced all within a week...so yeah some people do rush things...but that was vegas and a whole 'nother story all togeather!!!