Here we go, moving, agian.

[sarahlovesmiike]

I'm sixteen and had to basically cut my mom out of life over the last year. I'm lucky enough to have found my OWN family who loves and respects me. They appreciate everything I do and they let me know. My mother is a drug addict and feels like she needs a man to complete her. The most recent one, an alcoholic, convinced her that my boyfriend and I were the reason she is an addict. Thus she kicked us out and I haven't spoken to her since. She is true poison.


I hope you can be lucky enough to keep your mother a part of your life while also creating a new one for yourself.

[shescountry89]

Your family will be the people you choose to make your family--not those who are simply related by blood.

It's definitely time to get away from that sort of influence. Sometimes it's easier to love our relatives when they're not so close by.

I believe you are right, I am hoping things could get better between us if we are apart... but I am not completely sure it will work. My oldest sister is 35 and her and my mom still don't see eye to eye.

This is soooo true...

Good luck with the move, and telling your mom. If she does blow up on you just take the higher road and walk away. Not your problem once you move out anyways.

Well, I told her about a half hour ago. She isn't to happy, but she said I can do whatever I want and then hung up on me

I'm sixteen and had to basically cut my mom out of life over the last year. I'm lucky enough to have found my OWN family who loves and respects me. They appreciate everything I do and they let me know. My mother is a drug addict and feels like she needs a man to complete her. The most recent one, an alcoholic, convinced her that my boyfriend and I were the reason she is an addict. Thus she kicked us out and I haven't spoken to her since. She is true poison.


I hope you can be lucky enough to keep your mother a part of your life while also creating a new one for yourself.

Honestly, I wish I could be lucky to have her change when I move out. But I am not getting my hopes up, seems whenever I do that lately I still get let down. My mom, like yours believes she always needs a man around too. And yeah, those boyfriends can influence them in the worst ways possible. It's hard to watch, I've tried to step in and tell her what I think but she just pushes me away.

[mechnut450]

well I live at home but then again being on disablity means you don't make it on your own anywere, so it helps mom out too. She don't drive, can mow a yard, or do some other things at all. She went though the same thing for years with her so called bf as I grew up. I just acted like they were not around most the time sinc the were nothing but losers( she finally seen I was right lol) but sadly at my age 33 it sucks to be at home but were am I gonigo t find a place I can have snakes,and pay only like 200 for rent.eletric and other utlities ( that after I pay my truck payment,insurances and such) It not happen.

So it a win lose deal. but I don't really need ot answer to her , just run her to the store as need and such. I can go do what I want if I make sure to let her know if gone more than a night ( so she will feed rodents while I am gone)


But yeah I say get your life straight save up funds for your needs and get yourself settle remember to help the aunt and uncle the best you can and what not. Don't be like me a person that only visits the rest of the trailer when looking for food only or my clothes lol..

I also ask the uncle about the temps in the basement during winter since you may need an extra heatsource for the reptiles kids.

[Swingline0.0.1]

My mother never wanted be have me in the first place, I was 27 before I forgave the awful things she said, did, and let my stepfather do to my sister and I. It is the reason I decided to become a Psychologist. It takes some hard times to get through it sometimes, but I know you can do it girl! The main thing is to stay drama free, focused, and strive to do better than she did.

[Jason Bowden]

Get in the basement and stay a while.

[shescountry89]

I also ask the uncle about the temps in the basement during winter since you may need an extra heatsource for the reptiles kids.

The basement actually stays pretty warm , I do have a spaceheater but will only use it if I absolutely have too. I am going to attempt to make another rack with my uncle that will fit INTO my closet.. lol I can insolate that too. Somehow.

My mother never wanted be have me in the first place, I was 27 before I forgave the awful things she said, did, and let my stepfather do to my sister and I. It is the reason I decided to become a Psychologist. It takes some hard times to get through it sometimes, but I know you can do it girl! The main thing is to stay drama free, focused, and strive to do better than she did.

Your lucky you are able to forgive, not all people are strong enough to do that. I still have quite a few things to forgive people for but I can honestly say I don't think I can do it. The more pain you've gone through, gives you more experience and the ability to help others. I was told I should be a counseler for abused woman.

But thank you I am doing my best, I think moving in with my hillbilly of an uncle will make things a lot better. Drama free is the way to go.

Get in the basement and stay a while.

What I plan to do, haha.

[dsirkle]

The basement actually stays pretty warm , I do have a spaceheater but will only use it if I absolutely have too. I am going to attempt to make another rack with my uncle that will fit INTO my closet.. lol I can insolate that too. Somehow..

I would advise insulating the closet walls with Styrofoam sheets perhaps. Heating the whole basement might make you an unwelcome guest when the utility bills start rising but the basement will probably be 10 degrees colder than the 1st floor so insulating the closet will be a good idea.

It doesn't sound like your mother has her life in order. It would be better for you to start making your own life now.
It may seem daunting for you to do so at first but you will quickly adjust. I left my family at the age of 17.
Best of luck to you. I think that you will do fine. Judging by your posts, it seems to me that you have common sense. That will carry you through.

[shescountry89]

I would advise insulating the closet walls with Styrofoam sheets perhaps. Heating the whole basement might make you an unwelcome guest when the utility bills start rising but the basement will probably be 10 degrees colder than the 1st floor so insulating the closet will be a good idea.

It doesn't sound like your mother has her life in order. It would be better for you to start making your own life now.
It may seem daunting for you to do so at first but you will quickly adjust. I left my family at the age of 17.
Best of luck to you. I think that you will do fine. Judging by your posts, it seems to me that you have common sense. That will carry you through.

Hey, yeah I was thinking about talking to my uncle about doing that. It would probably work a lot better if i put the ball pythons in there. I need to make another hatchling/juvinile rack so it can actually fit in there. They are in 12qt tubs right now. I just found 6+ft of flexwatt in a box I had burried in my closet here.

My oldest sister, who is 35 left at 17. Because she couldn't handle being around my mom. And right now, I have to go get my license renewed then I am going to start moving stuff. I'm suck a wreck I guess I have my take my cat too, otherwise my mom is going to put her down.